Here We Go Again

September 24, 2020

By Tricia Cusden

In the saga that is Covid 19, we would appear to be at a crunch time once more. We’ve had about eight weeks or so of time out for good behaviour, but the virus didn’t get the message that we’d all really like to move on with our lives, so house arrest looms once more.

I wonder how you are all feeling right now? Worried, anxious, vulnerable, unhappy, angry, resigned, philosophical, sanguine or maybe just fed up? My mood passes through all of those states most days! As I write this, I’m waiting for the results of a Covid 19 test that my daughter has paid to have done (none available otherwise for at least a week). She and her family have all developed sore throats and slight coughs. I spent Sunday afternoon at their house to celebrate my grandsons’ birthdays (they were born two years and one day apart) and if they do all have Covid 19 then I may well have been infected. So at the moment I am anxious and will be mightily relieved if it turns out that it’s nothing more sinister than the common cold. However, this episode has underlined that however delicious the company and the chocolate birthday cake was, it wasn’t worth the risk to my health and possibly my life.

Last time v. This Time: Reasons to be Cheerful.

1. We know a lot more than we did in March

On every level there is more knowledge and knowledge is always power. Scientifically, medically, epidemiologically this virus is no longer such a mystery. Some medicines are known to be effective under certain circumstances. Vaccines are being developed apace and nine are currently undergoing very extensive clinical trials. As soon as a viable vaccine becomes available, possibly by the end of this year, our vulnerability to widespread infection will end.

2. We know that the NHS can cope.

In March ‘Save the NHS’ was one of the most powerful motivators for us all to stay at home. We love our NHS and there is almost universal admiration for the medical staff who work within it. The NHS showed itself to be resilient and able to flex. This time there is much less fear that our healthcare system will be overwhelmed and that people will therefore be left without the appropriate treatment.

3. We have become accustomed to the weirdness

First time around we needed to make huge mental adjustments to cope with the uncertainty, fear and sudden feelings of vulnerability that were engendered by lockdown - especially for all of us who are over 70. To a large extent we have accommodated those changes now, so the restrictions, whilst very unwelcome, are no longer unusual.

4. This Too Shall Pass

At the beginning of the pandemic, the Chief Medical Officer was reluctant to spell out that we were in this for the long haul. They were worried that if people knew it would be months not weeks then compliance would be low - so they gave us short term goals which inevitably needed to be extended. This time we know that our lives will be impacted for another few months but the end is much more in sight than it was back in March, so, as with everything in life, ‘this too shall pass.’

Learning the Lessons From Last Time

I am wondering if approaching winter will make social isolation harder than in March when the days were lengthening and we then experienced several weeks of truly glorious weather. There is something about bright light and warm sunshine which powerfully enhances mood. Does that inevitably mean that shorter days and colder weather will lead to depression and despair? I’m not sure that it does. If it’s cold and dark, then hunkering down at home with a good book or box set becomes much more attractive. The Scandinavians, who know a thing or two about long periods of cold and dark, have a word for what we all need to do. They call it ‘Hygge’ and it is defined thus: This is a Danish and Norwegisn word (and I quote) ‘for a mood of cosiness and comfortable conviviality with feelings of wellness and contentment.’ It involves warm clothes (shawls, bed socks, swaddling) and lots of candles to create an ambience of shelter from the hostile environment beyond your door. So a state of ‘Hygge’ is going to be my new normal for the coming months.

My Survival Strategies

1. Stop watching the news

It just doesn’t help my blood pressure to watch all the latest prognostications. I prefer to listen to programmes like ‘More or Less’ on BBC Radio 4 which gives factual data and information, and I also like to listen to a number of podcasts which offer various interesting perspectives.

2. Plan and structure my time.

Get up at the same time, shower, dress in something nice and apply my makeup and then plan my day to give me a sense of purpose and satisfaction. My mood starts to plummet if I am still in my PJs at lunchtime!

3. Feed my curiosity

My best solution last time was to be transported to other places and cultures via film. I went to Iceland twice, Saudi Arabia, Columbia, South Korea and also watched about five French films. There were some good British films too - the latest being ‘The Hope Gap’ with Bill Nighy and Annette Benning. I am also currently in the middle of series one of ‘Le Bureau’ (Amazon Prime) - four more series to go of this enthralling French secret service yarn. And then there’s the Booker shortlist to tackle.

4. Mens Sana in Corpore Sano

My weekly exercise target is five sessions of thirty minutes each on my beautiful little pink exercise bike. I really push myself so that it feels challenging and I feel brilliant afterwards. My bike is the pink Opti and it cost about £80. Worth its weight in gold, especially when you can’t get out.

5. Social contact

If two households are stopped from meeting it will be back to Zoom, emails and telephone calls. But we know that is just about ok whilst being a poor substitute for the real thing (a big hug from a grandchild). I’m going to keep telling myself that it’s not forever, grit my teeth and get on with it. Any contact, however virtual, is better than nothing.

6. Positive thinking and optimism

Daily gratitude lists, the odd treat from a special box of pamper products, being kinder to myself. Living alone I have to become my own best friend at times like these. So no ruminating on the past, no beating myself up and no sentences starting with ‘I wish’ or ‘If only’.

7. Go out for a daily walk

A walk in the wind and rain is a different kettle of fish to a stroll in balmy sunshine but it’s still vital for health and well being (and Vitamin D). So I am promising myself now that I won’t hole up indoors for days at a time if the weather turns foul. Note to self: buy a warm hat!

8. Super Troopers for fun and support

Tricia’s Super Troopers has developed into such an amazingly kind and supportive group. I feel as though it’s now peopled by old friends who are there for me whenever I need them. Thank goodness that throughout the coming months I can hop onto FB and find love, laughter and inspiration to lift my morale and keep me going.

I end with the good news that Anna’s Covid test was negative, so no need for me to be concerned with her health, nor to be scared every time I cough. The bad news is that the government has confirmed some new restrictions and these may be tightened further if we don’t behave ourselves. So, here we go again. Back to semi-lockdown but with a greater understanding both of the virus and the strategies needed to endure its impact on our lives, and also with the added bonus of weeks of ‘The Great British Bake Off’ and ‘Strictly Come Dancing’ to keep our peckers well and truly up!

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80 Comment(s)

Karen Bullinaire

Oct 08, 2020 05:47

Really interesting article. Thankyou I have certainly got lazy regarding my bingo wings and just thought I'd have to put up with them. I need to just incorporate some exercises in my daily routine to aid fitness in general.
So easy to make excuses I just need to take action.

Julia

Oct 05, 2020 11:31

Hello Tricia

I read your blog which as usual I found uplifting and interesting. I was especially struck by the comments you made about "travelling" while under lockdown through programmes on TV and films etc. I have found it very hard not to be able to travel this year as it is very important to me to experience other cultures etc. However, your remarks encouraged me to look at things in a different way so last night, when I settled down to watch the summer concert from Vienna on BBC4, I remembered my visit to that city and later, while watching Michael Palin's reprise on "Round the World in 80 Days" I enjoyed "revisiting" Venice and Athens as well as places I haven't been to. I will look at things in a different way now and not dwell on the fact I am currently unable to travel.

Thank you.

Julika

Maureen Nicholls

Oct 04, 2020 05:10

Very sensible advice Tricia. Hygge for winter- great idea. Lots of Tea at the Ritz too.

Pam (in Australia)

Sep 29, 2020 13:46

Hello Tricia,
I had wondered how you all were coping with the news over in England. So sorry to hear.....had heard bits on TV here.
We in Regional Victoria & Melbourne, are slowly changing now but still with restrictions in place but some light at the eve of the tunnel, thankfully.
Your points here are spot on & I pray you & all other Super troopers will stay healthy & get thru this maze.
Pam xx

Suzanne

Sep 29, 2020 08:06

Thanks Tricia - all the thoughts and feelings I have been having and I am going to adopt some of your very interesting strategies for dealing with a Covid winter. Suzanne

Thomas Sarah

Sep 29, 2020 06:45

Thank you Tricia. As always, sensible advice, and sums up exactly how I feel. You have been a great inspiration, and I have so enjoyed wearing my 3 new pairs of Toolally earrings, bright and in your face and a great morale booster

Rosalind

Sep 29, 2020 02:42

Thank you Tricia.

I enjoyed reading your down to earth and sensible musings. It’s so reassuring to find a kindred spirit in this disconcerting and fragmented world.

I wish you all the very best.

Rosalind

MaryClare Salkeld

Sep 28, 2020 13:41

What Cynthia said!

Lorraine Ross

Sep 28, 2020 11:26

Are you inside my head ?? Everything you said is just how i feel at the moment!! Wasnt sure how the winter nights would hold out but now you have set the pace it Hygge time for me too. Its great that others are so upbeat it definately helps. Although i cant walk without a frame i have sent off for a pedometer to count my megre steps over the winter. Stay safe xx

Cheryl

Sep 28, 2020 09:21

Tricia is certainly a ray of light,
I say Thankyou,for inspiration for the coming winter months.

Lorraine

Sep 28, 2020 07:53

Hi Tricia. Meant to post yesterday but I forgot!
Due to the "new" regulations we have had to cancel our holiday to Scotland next week. We cannot go into my brothers household. We are both disappointed but have to just get on with it!
We both wear masks when we have to and I get angry seeing youngsters out and about not wearing them or social distancing.
I don't think that there will be another lockdown like before. I could be wrong.
Thank you Tricia.

Sarah Seeberg

Sep 28, 2020 07:07

Hi Tricia,
Living almost Covid-free in beautiful Queensland, I send my most positive thoughts to you and everyone in the UK as you all endure your second wave.
Our Premier, like some other leaders of Oz states, has imposed a very strict state border closure for which every Queenslander is immensely thankful. As over-70s we self-isolated strictly for the first three months, March - June. Now much of life has resumed.
New South Wales and especially Victoria have been/still are experiencing their second waves. Happily both have reduced to low numbers of cases, with most deaths occurring in nursing homes. A sad but useful object lesson to those of us over 70 to keep as healthy, active, mentally fit and positive as we can so we are able to remain in our own homes.
What I miss most is travel overseas, both the fun of planning and the actual holiday. We are thankful that we had a wonderful time in Greece last September-October, including a nod to our more youthful years by sailing for two weeks around the Ionian islands. Probably it will be at least a year before we feel safe enough to venture out of Australia again. Anyway, our external borders remain closed. Luckily Queensland has some of the best holiday spots in Oz so we will visit more of them or re-visit. And we are heading into the lovely summer days of sun and swimming.
The University of Qld is one of the major places creating a vaccine so, hopefully, it will be ready for us in early to mid-2021.
Keep well and safe,
Sarah

Elaine

Sep 28, 2020 04:35

I agree with everything you have put forward as coping mechanisms.
I have challenged myself to learn Italian with a little App called Duolingo just a few minutes each day,as someone with no aptitude for languages it is a challenge believe me!
I think challenging yourself is very important,and there are many things to try with help of a book or the internet.
If you fail like myself with Crochet (all fingers and thumbs) it dosent matter try something else?
Although I do intend to go back to it and try again at some point.
Never give up..

Betty Richmond

Sep 28, 2020 03:43

I had the Sam feelings as you during the first lockdown, I also found it a nightmare! Just before lockdown my Husband was referred to the Memory Clinic, we eventually got and appointment in the middle of July, he was consequently referred for a brain scan which he had on September 1st. We had the result a week ago, as I suspected, he has Alhzeimer’s. It’s quite a relief to get a diagnosis, he is being prescribed medication and help is being put into place.

We do many walks together, dine out once a week obviously following government guidelines, I have gone back to my Pilates class twice a week and continuing the ‘Silver Swans’ class via Zoom. My husband meets his friends twice a week for coffee and I distance walk with a friend. So we do what we can in these difficult times.

I am making our home as cosy as possible for the coming colder months, still getting our walks in wearing the appropriate clothing.
I am so grateful to have supportive friends, including the Super Troopers and it lovely to hear all their news from different parts of the world.

I met Ruby Wax last year and bought her book, ‘How to Be Human’ her new one is ‘And now for the good News’ which I want to read next.

Thank you so much Tricia

Betty x

Margaret Garside

Sep 28, 2020 03:40

I totally agree with your comments - we must take one week at a time and keep as safe as possible - this week I have enjoyed a Sunday roast with the family - visiting a National Trust garden for the first time this year and meeting up with 'school friends' for lunch at a garden centre - a good week! By the way I have a lovely Habitiat sideboard - two bedside tables and a 1973 and 1981 Habitat Annual Catalogues - the 1973 one cost all of 20p!

tricia

Sep 27, 2020 22:22

That's very tough, Marie - sending you my love and best wishes as you spend this special time with your husband. I spent three weeks with my mother as she was dying and with the help of a Macmillan specialist nurse in palliative care, I believe that she had a 'good death'. I do hope you are getting lots of support too. Tx

Carillon

Sep 27, 2020 13:48

Due to the lack of leadership by our current government, we are still in Phase 1 with over 200k dead.
It upsets me to see people not wearing masks, when it is such a little thing to do to save lives.

My husband and I have not been to a restaurant except to get take-away since February. I really miss seeing family and traveling! But, on the brighter side, I am cleaning out cupboards and closets and, now that the weather is finally cooling down in Georgia, I am enjoying gardening again. I don't expect the first half of 2021 to be any better, but am holding out hope for later in the year.

Dee

Sep 27, 2020 13:14

Hi Tricia,
That is all very sensible. There is no point in grumbling about this or that.
I am resigned to the new normal, I would rather be safe than sorry., and I am very good at 'Living Alone', being able to motivate myself, and be grateful for the life I have.

Stay well Tricia, and we will connect through your great page. xx

Louise

Sep 27, 2020 13:07

I certainly don’t consider myself old at 57, but celebrating my son’s 30th birthday recently has focused my mindset. Yes, it is important to treat this virus seriously and every life is precious; but life is for living and I will continue to go out & about within current guidelines/restrictions as much as I can. My fast approaching 83 year old mum has only recently started going out again on her own. As a family, we have worked hard to encourage & support her during the severe lockdown period but it was very clear she was becoming more frightened. I can’t & won’t let her lose confidence again. I don’t expect her to take ‘silly’ risks, but to live the last few years of a life in fear is surely a waste.

Cynthia Helton

Sep 27, 2020 12:33

As always ... I'm uplifted and encouraged by what you have to say. Thanks for being a "light."

Jaki

Sep 27, 2020 12:27

the government's aim was to frighten us into compliance - see the SAGE minutes from 15th September ' the perceived level of persona threat needs to be increased'

Sue Henderson

Sep 27, 2020 12:24

I'm not sure how I should be feeling. On the one hand the government has implemented more restrictive measures in not allowing groups of more than six to meet in households, closing pubs and clubs by 10.00 p.m. and instigating lock downs in those areas where the rate of infection is too high. On the other hand it is still acceptable for me to be in the same room as thirty pupils for over five hours a day. It's also acceptable for me to be in the same environment as another six hundred and fifty other pupils and fifty plus adults. I am sixty one years old, asthmatic and have a immunodeficiency disorder. I really miss being able to hug my daughters.They both have underlying health issues so I cannot risk passing anything on to them. I also have to be ultra cautious around my husband because he has had two heart attacks, so the minute I come home from work I drop my bags on the hall floor and go to wash my hands.It's no way to live but it has to be done. Rightly or wrongly, in some ways. it would be a godsend for me if we had another lock down. At least I would know that for the time being that we would be safe.

Carolyn Williams

Sep 27, 2020 12:16

Good blog!

Lynn

Sep 27, 2020 11:57

Thank you Tricia, for an excellent blog, and advice. I'm not looking forward to another 6 months of lockdown, but if that is what it takes to fight this virus, then I will carry on obeying the rules. I have got used to my new checklist when going out, face mask..check...santitizer...check. How wonderful it will be when it is all over, and we can all get back to living normally. My daughter came up North on business yesterday, but we could only see each other outside two metres away, no hugs, no kisses. I don't get to see her very often, even less since Covid, so a hug is important, we just blew kisses. Something to look forward to I guess. I am in my son's bubble, so at least there is no shortage of hugs there, and especially with my grandson. Being a member of ST is fabulous, thank you for starting it, lots of amazing ladies to chat to. Glad Anna had good news, and lets all look forward to a brighter future.

Barbara

Sep 27, 2020 11:43

Yes Tricia, pretty much all of the above! Although I must say I approached the March lock-down with a certain amount of enthusiasm and determination to get through it by keeping busy with a big garden project we had. Also, somewhat naively, I did think that we would be back to normality by the summer! Oh dear...

I will try to maintain my determination to get through it again, while hoping that Christmas will happen. As you say, cosying down with box-sets, books etc., will help and I am also going to go to Hobbycraft to stock up on crafty supplies and may be find another hobby to keep me busy.

Let’s hope for all of us that this time it won’t last so long.

Kate Cullen

Sep 27, 2020 11:15

I love being able to hear the ideas of all the lovely ,optimistic ladies in LFF .It makes me feel less alone ,and to be a part of this group gives me a feeling of belonging and optimism.(I live alone,too .)
I can identify so easily with those who live alone .It has many benefits but it must be easier at times when you have someone with you to share thoughts with ....a warmth and a support .
Thankyou ,ladies who live alone,for giving me a feeling that there are many like me who live alone but are not lonely. There is a great difference .
Thankyou ,Tricia ,for this beacon of light which is LFF .X

Pauline Williams

Sep 27, 2020 11:12

Thank you Tricia - that was just what I needed. I was beginning to get stressed about another lockdown and being on my own for Christmas. Now I am determined it won't get to me and I will be positive. I am so glad I joined TST.

Susan

Sep 27, 2020 11:11

Thank you Tricia for your uplifting words. I am lucky enough to live in a remote part of France which currently is relatively Covid free but I have never stopped wearing masks and social distancing - not easy with loved ones, as you know, when all you want to do is hug them.

As with everything in life a good rule of thumb is to live as if your glass is always half full and this was never more important than it is during the Covid19 pandemic. I am lucky because every day I wake up with a feeling of joy as I listen to the dawn chorus of birds I have yet to identify and luckily, even in winter, to what is usually an azure blue Provençal sky. However challenged I am and however challenging my life might be during these difficult times, I look up at that stunning sky and, even if only for a moment, all feels well with the world. Wherever we live there is always something to see in nature than can uplift us, you just have to look.

Lynda

Sep 27, 2020 11:02

Thanks for another interesting blog Tricia - I always enjoy reading them. The Covid 'story' is so complex and political that I could not possibly discuss it full here and anyway it's not the place. Suffice it to say that I'm less than impressed with the government response! However, I thought the other day that on a personal, human level we should acknowledge the incredible stress that ministers have been under. In some ways hospitals are now better able to cope with Covid patients but there are two things that are different from where they were in March. One is that they are trying to catch up with all the work they had to drop & staff are worn out with many of them ill themselves. I never cease to be amazed at how much they give to their patients. I agree with Trish about how hard and cruel the restrictions have been for many people. Lockdown only supresses the virus; once people 'come out' it starts up again.
I agree that you need to keep active & engaged with life in general. I'm continuing with my PT in person now and I hope it does not have to go back to Skype.( Older people in particular cannot get enough vitamin D in the winter, even by being outside, and should consider a supplement.) I'm thinking of doing some on-line courses this winter just in order to keep my brain active & it helps the organisations which offer them. I'm used to being away 3 or 4 times a year singing or on courses as well as other 2 or 3 other holidays and I miss these a great deal, they are what makes my life worthwhile. However, I'm one of the lucky retired with a home and garden and countryside on the doorstep; I have to be grateful for that.

Alex

Sep 27, 2020 11:01

I so agree with you. There has been little mention of the number of excess deaths there have been over the 3 months of summer. 12,500, over and above the number of deaths normally happening at this time of year. Not COVID 19 deaths, but deaths from other causes like heart attacks, stroke, cancer etc. Obviously COVID 19 has been devastating for a lot of people, ( my son was very seriously ill with it in April, and he is a fit 44 year old ) but there are so many other medical problems that have been pushed aside and ignored, with people unable to be seen and get treatment.
I think that we should be thinking of living with this disease and managing our lives around it, not putting everything else on hold. By the way, in the news there is constant talk of the winter’s flu season coming , and how devastating the combined viruses will be. Well, if the Australian experience is anything to go by, it may not be so bad. They have had their lowest number of flu cases ever this winter, probably because of social distancing and mask wearing and hand washing that people are doing.

Edna Martin

Sep 27, 2020 10:57

Hi Tricia, glad you don’t nerd to have the COVID test after all. Regarding exercise. Why don’t you have a go at Tai chi. Don Fiore has some great beginners videos on YouTube. Good for calming the mind too.

Ann

Sep 27, 2020 10:32

How i agree with all you say. Just hoping people will be sensible again so we can all get back to ‘normal’.

Kathy Sharp

Sep 27, 2020 10:25

Tricia, I usually agree with you - but on this I must differ. I accepted the first lockdown because the illness was an unknown quantity and it seemed the logical thing to do. I hated it, but I obeyed the rules. The result was a significant decline in my mental health, despite taking every opportunity to walk outside, learning to use Zoom and everything I could think of to stay sane. When my local cafe reopened in June, I was first through the door, and frequent outings to local gardens, restaurants, etc, through the summer have restored my equilibrium. I will continue to do these things as much as possible. Like you, I have long since stopped listening to the doom and gloom news. I have found a podcast that seems balanced, rational and good-humoured (unlike the government!), and I do listen to that. What I shall not do is to voluntarily shut myself away and cower in terror again. I will not be a prisoner in my own home. I will not push my family away in case they 'infect' me. I am happy to take reasonable precautions, and I will obey the law, but that's as much as I will do. Like you, I want control over my life, and I don't feel I will regain it by cowering in a corner.

Monica

Sep 27, 2020 10:17

Your comments are all very measured and sensible, but so many people have completely lost confidence in the government that directives will not be followed and we will all have to live with the consequences. Personally I will be fairly cautious, but will continue to meet with my limited circle of family and friends, otherwise life isn’t worth living.

Tammy

Sep 27, 2020 09:53

Dear Tricia, Thank you for your uplifting and positive article given the subject matter and what that means to all of us. Whilst we take on board the ever tightening restrictions currently in place, as you say, we are better prepared for dealing with it this time around. It’s not something that any of us relish but we know that we will do whatever is required to reduce the increasing cases of covid-19 in order to protect family and loved ones. Thanks to your videos during lockdown and your more recent zoom calls, you have brought so many people together so that, even if you live on your own (as I do), you still feel part of a ‘community of friends’...and that means a lot. Apart from the fabulous make-up videos you’ve shared, you’ve also discussed and shared your own personal feelings on how the pandemic / lockdown has affected you and your family which we can all relate to on various levels. So a big thank you for your openness and honesty; for the time you have given and for the fun, friendship and laughter you have brought to us. Kind regards. Tammy. PS. Great to hear that Anna’s Covid test was negative.

Carola

Sep 27, 2020 09:50

THANK YOU Tricia!! I hope laying it all out will really help YOU find your own rhythm, and I am positive that your piece this week will help EVERYONE who might be feeling worried about the coming months, especially those on their own. I am in France at the moment [there is snow in Andorra - end of September?!] and the weather is dire, though we are promised some sunshine during the coming week. I have really noticed how my mood has dropped since the rain arrived - however the garden is thankful for it!
I do suggest that everyone looks up articles about HYGGE - the advice can be followed quite easily and cheaply and will help so many feel more confident and able to cope with whatever the coming months may bring. Hugs and a big dose of courage all round!

Sue

Sep 27, 2020 09:43

Great blog Tricia. I couldn't agree more. I'm certainly worried about the coming months but I'm going to do my best to keep positive. We have started to de-clutter our house and garage. Goodness why do we hold on to so much stuff?? This will keep me occupied for awhile. I, like you, put my makeup on every day. It certainly makes me feel more positive.

As the days become shorter, I will be lighting my candles and settling down to a good box set or listening to my Audible books. (and maybe some baking).

We will come out the other side. We just have to do the right thing to help ourselves and others. As Churchill said KBO! Very pleased your daughter's test was negative. TATR and your video chats help to keep us going. Keep them coming xxx

Monica Cameron

Sep 27, 2020 09:33

Thank you Tricia for once again putting an unpleasant situation into a workable context. Like you, I feel differently at different times, although I do feel less scared and anxious this time around, not blase but more pragmatic. I have enjoyed summer being able to be with my family and have hugs with my wonderful grandsons, and hope that will continue - not very likely though.
I am so pleased that Anna's test is negative and you have no worries there. I wish you a happy autumn season doing as many of the things you love as possible, and as you said some time ago, KOBO!!
Cheers, Monica.

Lynda Steele

Sep 27, 2020 09:28

Thank you Trisha for such an uplifting and as usual sensible message. I look forward each week to reading your thoughts on different topics. Please don’t stop!

Patricia Plaisted

Sep 27, 2020 09:19

I thought so much of this , I printed it

Jenny Phipps

Sep 27, 2020 09:17

Good morning Trish,

You certainly write a brilliant blog of how you are feeling. It made me realise there are people out there who are thinking like I am. I live alone and am not looking forward to the winter but as you say we have done this before and we will cope again. At the end of the day we are British, we are strong people and we will get through this and look back thinking well it wasn’t too bad after all. I’ve bought lots of plants and this will be my indoor garden for the winter, something living that needs looking after.
I’m pleased your result came back negative. Keep writing Trish and look after yourself.
Best wishes

Jenny

Gill

Sep 27, 2020 09:14

Hello Tricia,
Just read your wonderful and heartwarming article - as always, you are so sensible and encouraging to us all, thank you. Keep safe and warm, lots of love, Gill x

Rachel Edmondson

Sep 27, 2020 09:09

Thank you Tricia for your wise and calming blog. I am, like you, a glass half full person and have a huge sense of acceptance of the situation. Yes it is all extremely frustrating but if only people would help themselves by abiding by the rules which, let's admit, are not rocket science, then the road to some sort of freedom will be shorter. The longer we rant about restrictions the longer it will take. One day at a time, this too shall pass and be grateful for what I do have helps me get through. I am very pleased to hear that you are virus free and your inspiring blogs are a tonic to read. Many thanks. Rachel

Heather Woods

Sep 27, 2020 09:05

What a breath of fresh air this message has been to me! A ‘let’s get through this together again’
I’m a nursery teacher and I’m finding COVID precautions and 3 year olds are not a good mix. This week I sent 3 children home to be tested for COVID, thankfully all results came back negative! The. Stress of my job is huge at present for me. I am 3 years widowed and live alone so I will be taking your Hygge advice and finding laughter and fun in super troopers too as I did first time round . Big thanks from me xx

Bev

Sep 27, 2020 09:03

Enjoyed reading your blog today. I especially like the comment about traveling through film. I believe traveling, anyway you can, is mind broadening. I have a suggestion of a French film that I find delightful. It's Blind Date.

Cath

Sep 27, 2020 08:55

Thank you, Tricia, for your excellent, sound advice, as always. Reading your words has lifted my spirits and I realise that I can be more positive and less fearful than I was in March.

Jan Falkiner

Sep 27, 2020 08:54

Tricia, thanks for your 8 points for Survival Strategy.
I feel, just as you do, second time around we are coming into Winter, whereas first time around I was using positive thinking - lockdown BUT oh well, we're coming into Summer.
I live alone seven miles outside Ross-on-Wye - definitely In The Country!
I am trying to be positive over the prospect of several months - or more - of pretty much isolation.
So, first off this coming week I will start a Pamper Box for myself.
Also, I will send a little cash bonus to two of my grandsons who are beginning University this year, to make a box of treats for themselves - the prospect of 'staying in your room, your bubble' for an open ended period of time for students who may be living away far from home for the first time is not necessarily good.
Heyho, I woke up this morning - that must be a good thing... and there is Roland Garros Tennis to watch, and the Grand Prix ..... my my, how will I fit it all in?!
Kind regards
LADY JAN FALKINER

Penny

Sep 27, 2020 08:54

Thank you for this Tricia - I feel the same way, that it is 'hello, and back to lockdown'. On my blog I write a monthly Lockdown Diaries and am in the process of writing one right now with lots of encouragement to be more like the Norwegians and Swedes who embrace the dark and the indoor life during winter. Totally with you that this too will pass.

All the very best, Penny

Penny Graham

Sep 27, 2020 08:50

I agree with your sentiment, also I lived in Norway for many years and have experienced Hygge.
I have bought lots of battery pillar candles, so they are safe but give the same ambiance as candles.
Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts so honestly

Jean

Sep 27, 2020 08:42

Hi Tricia, thank you for yet another uplifting blog. I’m so pleased Anna has had the all clear, such a relief. So far, all of my family has steered clear of the virus, but I do feel more concerned now that the children are all back at school. I have decided to make one recipe each week from The Bake Off, so have made the Battenberg Cake to take with us today when we meet up with my daughter and family at Winkworth Arboretum. I used the Bake Off online recipe which says 125 grams of butter, sugar and flour but the Good Food recipe says 175 grams! I should have gone for that one because my squares turned out rectangular, never mind though I’m think it tastes good, going by the trimmings which I had to test!l. Have a good week and keep safe. Jean

Trish

Sep 27, 2020 08:36

Tricia, I feel so angry. I’m 68 and still working as a Psychiatric Community Nurse with people over 65. I strongly feel we are being controlled by fear. Have you noticed at no time have suicides numbers being mentioned. My bet is that currently they are higher than Covid-19 deaths. Covid is not the automatic death sentence we are being lead to believe it will be for the over 60’s, as I had a positive test but had no symptoms. My partner, who is 71, must have had it, because we’re told it’s so contagious, but he had no symptoms either and continued working as he’s a builder. I’ve had on my case load recently one gentleman of 83 and a lady of 94 who both went into hospital with psychosis because of urine infections. They both tested positive for Covid while in hospital but nether had symptoms, and continue to lead normal lives. Week by week I’m visiting people whose mood is dropping because of the current situation. Many feel their freedom has been taken away. Most are happy to wear a mask but the main concern is lack of physical contact and now they are worried they won’t be able to spend Christmas with their families. I just wish the Government would treat us like adults and a listen to our concerns because I don’t feel they are. They’re just been blindly ‘following the science’ when at the start of this there was no science about this particular virus.

Jenny Meffert

Sep 27, 2020 08:33

Hi Tricia,
Sorry you are all back in lockdown. We have been ‘locked down’ here in Melbourne since March and our premier has today loosened a few of the restrictions. As from midnight we are having our curfew lifted. More business and industry will be gradually returning to work and there will be a staggered return to school. Not much really but there is a slight chance we will have a little freedom by Christmas, at least I hope so. The damage to our economy, loss of life, mental illness, etc...the list goes on and on, it is enormous.
I can truthfully say that being a Super Trooper saved me. Your blogs taught me to look at life in a different way and I feel that I am a better person for it. I love the UK and my thoughts and prayers are with you all as you prepare to face this evil virus again. You have given us the skills to cope so I know you will all just ‘keep buggering on’.
Thank you, take care and keep safe.

Jenny xx

Pamela

Sep 27, 2020 08:33

Not so much "here we go again" for us as we haven't really changed much of what we do over the summer. We haven't been away anywhere, resumed normal face to face social contact with friends or even been out that much. The bravest thing I've done is get my hair cut under strict conditions. Whilst it hasn't been so difficult during the summer, living in a very rural area, having a garden and having easy access to the coast and countryside, my worry is for the winter when we would normally go on our long haul travels, mainly to South America to escape the worst of the winter. We started doing this many years ago when I realised that I did indeed suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder and my mood takes a real dive in the dark months. My strategy for coping this year will be to invest in some daylight bulbs, get out in the fresh air as much as possible, keep up the exercise regime and embrace the cosiness of a warm,safe and secure home. And of course, keep up vital social contact with friends (includingTSTs) and family via technology and count my blessings.
All this is just very inconvenient for us but I feel so sorry for people whose livelihoods and futures depend upon being able to get back to work, school or college, have been severely financially impacted, or worse, have lost loved ones to this awful disease.

Mary Barber

Sep 27, 2020 08:24

Common sense and positivety as usual from Trisha. Thank you for your mood lifting words this morning.

Marcia Brown

Sep 27, 2020 08:22

I do enjoy your ‘chats’ - please keep on producing them you spread such ‘common sense‘. Here’s hoping these new lockdowns don’t last too long and we all come out at the other end stronger and more able to cope with this virus. I think we will have to learn to live with it for some time yet. Xx

Honore Gale

Sep 27, 2020 08:21

Thank you once again for your uplifting comments and I am so glad your family is safe. Like you I am going through a multitude of emotions each day. I must admit that since reaching 70 I have had a dread of becoming ill and being unable to see a doctor and receive whatever treatment quickly. Since COVID arrived even more so. Taking care of ourselves is even more important now. I try to appreciate my good fortune. Both my husband and myself have been retired for several years and lockdown was not such a hardship for us as we didn’t have to go out. Our immediate family are just 10 minutes away so at present we can practise the Rule of 6 or if the worst comes to worst wave through the window. I am determined to keep up my walking through wind and rain and gritted teeth! and continue to battle against depression and anxiety. For me the best thing is to literally to move - just to another room, change the scenery - it breaks the cycle. Thank you for your lovely blogs each week, I really look forward to them. Keep safe - Honoré

Lillian

Sep 27, 2020 08:16

Thank you so much Tricia, my emotions have been like a rollercoaster and reading your blog has given me great comfort and I now know I'm not losing my marbles, as like you I've gone through all these different emotions!! I really wish everyone would just follow the rules because if they don't we will never get on top of this pandemic! Going to take your advice in the coming winter months (which I usually dread)!! But need to remain positive as that's the only way forward, being positive is also good for the immune system!! Glad to hear that you and your family got good results from the Covid test. Wishing you all the best!!

Jane ALLAN

Sep 27, 2020 08:14

Wise words. Indeed it cannot go on for ever, just as that dammed tractor you are stuck behind will eventually turn off into a field and let you free, so will the dammed virus get its uppance. Meanwhile it might be worth checking in the internet for Hampshire health services checklist of symptoms. A useful document that is labelled WHO.CDC as source.

Jane reynolds

Sep 27, 2020 08:14

Yes.....I have to say , my sentiments are much the same as yours. Sadly for me, I still have been unable to see my grandchildren, who live in Barcelona. They continually say “when.” “When can we see you?” I still don’t know. The answer to that one.
This time round, I have just commenced working from home, for how long, ,I don’t know, I also have a puppy who needs constant attention and interaction. Probably a good thing for me to keep my mind together and hopefully come out of this with a well balanced Yorkshire Terrier puppy.
This time we know about the shortages of last time.....and can be prepared for them! I still know people who wear a mask, wash their hands, but go everywhere....and still want to come in my house. I still don’t know how to deal with this , without making hard feelings. They think they are safe and I don’t feel that they are!
So, it’s back to all these things, as long as we all come through safe. One other regret I have is that I have still not been able to see my brother who is in a nursing home with a type of dementia. We see each other on video each week, but he dosn't understand the “virus” and says there is no such thing!
It is difficult, I am his POA and no one else in my family gives any of their time. Trying to ensure he has all his needs is not easy, second season change, to organise clothes etc.....I rely on the super staff in the unit for direction. Every night , I go to bed with a prayer in my head” Dear Lord look after us and help us, give me strength to cope!”

Sue Aston

Sep 27, 2020 08:13

Thank you once again Trish for sharing your thoughts and coping strategies.
I totally agree with everything you say and it is good to keep these blogs to reread should the loneliness wash over me.
It is so easy to feel isolated, insignificant and low mood quickly sets in , however, you are right, have a self care routine, there is company in Super Troopers , I have a diary in which to schedule walks whatever the weather , schedule phone calls to friends and treat times .
I have not owned a TV for over 25 years. I prefer Radio 4 and apart from the programmes you mention my favourites are 'A Life Scientific' and The Infinate Monkey Cage' which I get on podcasts ive also re gently come back to The Archers.
However, I am seriously considering a TV for films .
Well just to thankyou again for doing these things , it does help tremendously to know that others feel the same . We are all in this together .
Stay safe and well and I very much look forward to Tuesday .
Have a great Sunday
Sue x

Rachel

Sep 27, 2020 08:11

Thanks for such an inspiring post Tricia. So glad your family and you are ok, i.e. No Covid.
I have always loved Autumn and Winter so relish cosy indoor times. I don't think any Vitamin D is available though from the outdoor walks until May now, the sun is not strong enough, I am told. Still good for the body and the spirits though!
I have a little red bike but struggle to do 10 mins at a time, so am impressed with your 30 Mins a day!

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Catharine

Sep 27, 2020 08:07

Yes,it's 'Here we go again!' New restrictions with us through the shorter days of Autumn and Winter..but not as rigid as in some countries,so for that I am grateful. I too will continue to have a routine and cope with whatever comes my way. Thank you Tricia for the Super Troopers,many of whom now seem like old friends across the world. We can continue to laugh and cry together and support each other through the coming months. Through it all I'll be finding the positives and smiling in Fuchsia lipstick!

Anne Hales

Sep 27, 2020 08:05

Yet again, Tricia, you’ve hit the nail on the head! I read somewhere that the virus doesn’t move, we move it, so minimising contact makes absolute sense, and being retired, I can do that relatively easily without impacting my finances or future.
I just feel so sorry for those beset by worry over health, jobs, income, security, etc, etc, and angry at those who have adopted an’I’m all right, Jack’ attitude.

Teresa Ofarrell

Sep 27, 2020 07:44

I echo all that has been said.
I listened to the more or less podcast and that will be what I listen to in the future.
Thanks for the info on that,very helpful.
Yes my mood definitely lifts when makeup earrings etc on,its a must to have a routine.
Walking in the not so god weather can be exhilarating,and a warm hat is a must.
Always feel quite self righteous if I have weathered a storm so to speak,and always feel better for it.
So to sum up.Keep being fabulous in as many ways as you can.
Thanks Tricia once again for your informative balanced view, always a pleasure to read

Celia Kennedy

Sep 27, 2020 07:35

The best thing you can have in lockdown is a dog. Great company at home, you have to go out everyday for exercise, you meet other dog walkers on the way who all seem to be sensible about social distancing.

Sheila

Sep 27, 2020 07:35

Dear Tricia,
I agree with all that you say. As the prospect of further confinement to our homes, with little social interaction ,looms for a second time I made a promise to myself to notice at least one thing that I should be grateful for each day.
It sounds trite ,but with much less traffic noise in the Spring, it was uplifting to be able to hear more clearly the beautiful song of the birds and feel glad to be alive as a result. I will make a point to telephone , more frequently ,friends who live alone and will have to go back to Zoom meetings with the family and grandchildren.
Every year I plant spring bulbs and this year has been no different so I shall look forward with renewed anticipation to the first sign that my tubs of miniature daffodils are starting to flower and know that we are over the worst.
Best wishes to yourself and all those others who live alone.

Marie

Sep 27, 2020 07:33

Thank you for this. I don't live alone as I am caring for my terminally ill husband, but sometimes I feel very isolated and a little bit down. Your words gave me hope and a sunnier outlook on the future. We were shielded for many months so that was an even more challenging time and I am determined that this time around I will make better use of the enforced isolation and continue to do all I can to make these last days together as happy and meaningful as possible. Thank you, Tricia, for your words of hope and wisdom.

Karin Staddle

Sep 27, 2020 07:26

Good Morning! Thank you so much for this mood boosting blog. Got up this morning starting to feel a bit low but once again your common sense tips are spot on and am now ready to face anything. Only 2degrees this morning so it will be hats and gloves when I walk this morning. There isnt a cloud in the sky so it will be a lovely walk.

Val Gambrill

Sep 27, 2020 07:23

I love your Sunday blogs, but today's was particularly inspiring and as much as I dread the thought of another lockdown, I shall try to follow your advice to the 'T'
Thankyou!

Ann Anderson

Sep 27, 2020 06:55

Wonderful suggestions Tricia, I think we are all dreading the winter months. I particularly like your suggestion of ignoring the news and listening to" More or Less" on the radio. I tuned in briefly this afternoon and found it most informative. The actuary seemed to talk more sense than most other so called "experts". Carry on supporting us for the ? next 6 months!

Pamela Kay

Sep 27, 2020 06:36

Tricia, a wonderful blog. I too, live on my own at 72, and family, grandchildren and friends are so important to me. It certainly has been a difficult year for us all but I have loved your Tea time at the Ritz and your words are now inspirational. We all must take care and try to keep cheerful and positive. Thank you.

Angela

Sep 27, 2020 05:57

Hello Tricia,

You are truly inspirational- a voice of hope, reason and positivity. Your honesty and practical approach to this strange time is unique and uplifting. You always give such an insight into your life which I can relate to- you fill me with hope and confidence.
Thank you.

Christine Watts

Sep 27, 2020 05:24

As always, your blog was interesting and inspiring. Despite dreading another lockdown with only my husband, my dogs will keep me sane. Like everyone else, the thought of not seeing my ten grandchildren again saddens me greatly but it is what it is. I am worried that one granddaughter goes back to Uni tomorrow and dread her not being able to get back to her siblings and parents at the weekends, especially as she works at Boots every Sunday.
My son and his husband will once again get my shopping, if needed, so I have very little to complain about, compared to others.
I am the eternal optimist and am looking forward to Spring!

Dorothy McM

Sep 27, 2020 04:26

I agree with all those who have posted comments about looking for the positives in this ongoing Covid19 mess. As a healthy over 70 yr old I will not put myself under "house arrest" again. I cannot hop on the mental health bandwagon but I became decidedly creaky with a reduced amount of exercise and felt like I'd aged 5 years in 5 months of isolating last time around. I'm not going to risk my improving fitness because of the whims of the so-called experts and ill thought out Government "advice". I'd much rather rely on my own common sense along with others of my generation. Thanks for being an ongoing voice of reason Tricia and continued good health to you and yours.

Sue

Sep 27, 2020 03:35

Tricia,
We have to do what is best and sensible for us, unfortunately there are many others (of all ages)who haven't or won't take that message on board for some reason or other, and therefore cause problems as we are now experiencing.
I have been to my son's this weekend (we already are a social bubble) - it's the children's exeat weekend from school, and they go to different schools (although affiliated) - the girls school is very switched on, but the boys seems a bit more laissez faire about things, and my grandson has a cough, so I'm hoping its just the normal start of academic year sniffles!There were no Covid cases at school on Friday.
We all acted responsibly - and that all we can do! Be responsible for ourselves.
I'm fortunate in that I live in a rural area with very low risk -I appreciate not everybody is as lucky as me.

Marieke Derrington

Sep 27, 2020 02:44

Thank you for this affirming, positive, hopeful & realistic approach to the situation we are all in. Like you, I get up & dress at around the same time, I think about what I’ll be doing over the course of the day, I look at my garden & smile, especially if it’s sunny, I plan to whom I will send a TouchNote card, make a mental list of family members & friends to ring/WhatsApp/FaceTime, & get on with those few fixed points in my week which will go ahead whatever - baking & working at the 2 cafes where I volunteer, swimming, cycling (unless another hard lockdown kicks in!). At our age time seems to race along & so will the next few months. Eyes down, a day at a time.....

Jane Lingard

Sep 27, 2020 02:31

Here we go again indeed.
Having more knowledge since March,we just have to do more of the same and all continue with the hand washing/sanitising and social distancing until we have a vacine.
Until then,we shall just have to entertain ourselves during the autumn/winter months and look glamorous all the time!

Chris Gilbey

Sep 27, 2020 02:04

Thank you Tricia for yet another excellent blog. Like you and everyone else I must admit I am very concerned, especially for the next few months, but we just have to be sensible and try and stay positive in these difficult times ahead.

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