My Seven Visible Signs of Ageing

June 26, 2020

By Tricia Cusden

I have long railed against the beauty industry for all its age-shaming skin care advertisements. ‘The First Global Age-Defying Skincare’ screams one and ‘Reverse the Face of Time Now’ exhorts another. And the one I have always taken particular exception to is the advertisement that told me that I must eradicate the ‘Seven Visible Signs of Ageing’ from my face as if each one was a shameful mark of my failure to stay young and beautiful.

1. I’m very grateful for comfy shoes

I fought this for a long time. Frumpy ‘granny’ shoes were a thing of horror to me. Maybe I was scarred as a child by my own grandmother who had to wear a pair of brown lace-up orthopedic boots, one of which had a built up heel to compensate for one leg being shorter than the other due to an accident. Any footwear that connotes ‘orthopedic’ is therefore anathema to me. So it is with great relief that during lockdown I have been able to try some specialist shoe brands like Sole Bliss and Calla and discovered that style and comfort can go hand-in-hand (or should I say foot-in-shoe).

2. Oh - the joy of a stretchy waistband

Since I started to self-isolate in March I have resolutely refused to lower my standards of self-care. Every day without fail I have washed, removed my nightwear, applied my face makeup and sorted my hair. On 23rd March I made my first Teatime at the Ritz video and realised that no-one could see what I was wearing on my lower half, so I dolled up my top half and pulled on a pair of Sweaty Betty’s over my bottom half. And so it has stayed throughout lockdown, because stretchy lycra exercise leggings are incredibly forgiving of a largely sedentary lifestyle whilst also working perfectly for sudden manic bursts of pedalling on my little pink exercise bike.

3. I’ve started to make a slight ‘grunting’ noise when I get up from the sofa

What is it about sitting for long periods of time? Why do older bodies seize up and become stiff and a bit sore? I have carried on religiously doing my twice weekly personal training sessions albeit via Zoom. I bend and stretch and balance and do lunges and bicep curls with weights and goodness knows what else to keep my body as supple and agile as I possibly can. And still I make that little noise when I heave myself off the sofa. Tell me this is normal!

4. My hearing is definitely not 100% (but it doesn't bother me in the slightest)

But it definitely drives other people up the wall! That’s the thing about very gradually losing your hearing, you adjust and you hardly notice it. I now watch the television with subtitles because I know how loud my TV has to be for me to catch every word (and my, how they mumble in a lot of dramas!) I live alone so it’s really not a big deal and in normal daily interactions I am mostly fine as long as there is no ambient noise (pubs, restaurants). I am sure that one day I’ll go and get it sorted, but in the meantime it’s brilliant when I go to sleep because I lie on my ‘good’ ear and none of the noises of my busy London street bother me.

5. Certain foods have to be avoided if eaten late

This is a relatively new phenomenon and it is certainly inconvenient. I tend to eat my main meal of the day at around 8pm. I dislike going to bed before 11pm and rarely sleep before midnight. So I have always reckoned that four hours to digest my meal is perfectly adequate. However I have recently experienced some very disturbed nights when I have eaten something a bit rich (creamy, oily) during the evening. I would have pooh-poohed this before, but I suspect my digestive tract is no longer as robust as it once was.

6. Technology still feels like an optional extra

I watch my grandchildren around technology and can see that for them it’s akin to breathing. It holds few fears and little mystery. I have come a very long way in my acceptance that technology must inevitably permeate almost every aspect of life, but I still can’t quite come to terms with it. Just now, I airily mentioned Zoom calls with my personal trainer under lockdown, without telling you that it took me about 5 or 6 goes before I could seamlessly join the Zoom call with her. Whenever I have to get my head round some new device (a Smart TV, a new mobile phone) I can feel a sort of weariness descend. But I usually get there in the end.

7. I see a young man and think ‘I’d be so proud if you were my grandson!’

That’s exactly what I found myself thinking last week when the young footballer Marcus Rashford spoke up on behalf of disadvantaged kids to persuade the government to provide meal vouchers for them during the summer. Once I might have thought ‘how lovely to have a son like that!’ and now I think ‘how proud I’d be if I was his grandmother’. Doctors, policemen are all mere children - or is that just me?

When I was a teenager and my dad made a disparaging remark about something that I was enjoying on the TV (I can remember once watching the Beatles on Top of the Pops and him saying ‘he looks about as vigorous as a mole’ of my idol Paul McCartney) and I would think to myself ‘I am never going to be an old fogey like you when I get older.’ I believe passionately that we are ageing very differently from our parents’ and grandparents’ generation, but just recently I have to admit that some of those pesky signs of ageing are creeping up on me. Please tell me I am not alone!?

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217 Comment(s)

millie Fitzpatrick

Aug 27, 2020 08:40

My opinion: Your "state of mind" contributes to how you appear. Think "young", and this has given me friends of different ages. I am 90, I had bone graft surgery on my spine in
Boston about 18 months ago, and because the bone is growing in my spine, I kind of "bend" which the new bone will help me to stand "tall". If you think old, you indeed are "old", It is all in your attitude. I work two hours weekly at my local library and interact with patrons of any age.
But makeup which I love is my issue. I have pretty smooth skin (for 90). it is important that I look the best that I can. Think young, laugh, and always, and I mean this always thin positive. Look at what you have, not at what you have lost.,

helen

Jul 13, 2020 13:28

I so agree with you. Everyone seems to be getting younger! I look at the TV and wonder if they have just left school? and who are they to give advice when they are in their 20's. What do they know!
Our TV is getting louder but I put it down to not having proper speakers. They used to be on the side and boomed out now we get little ones or the dreaded sound bar which does not get any louder. Also the signal allways goes up in the adverts very annoying.
I just listened to your talk on dress sizes. Margret Duchess of Argyle ( who was best dressed woman in the 30's) She had her dress designer Hartnell dress her all in white. That is the most unforgiving colour! Beware all brides! Then he looked at her best features and made clothes for her in 1 shape for the rest of her life. She had a thin body and small bust but great legs. All her skirts were cut on the bias so they swung. No low tops and a nipped in waist. She still came in best dressed woman in the 50's. So same style for all her clothes just different patterns and colours. I thought it a wonderful idea but obviously costs a lot of money to get a designer to make all your clothes! Loving the chats as no WI meetings and I do miss the chat with the girls. I have no camera on computer so can not do zoom calls. I have sent off for a book on android tablets and hopefully will buy one and then join the world on zoom! Thank you Tricia for all your insights , I agree with them and some make me giggle which is very uplifting.

Bernice Thomas

Jul 07, 2020 09:21

Hi
I am 68 and new to this site I absolutely love it.
I really struggled with getting older which made me really miserable. One day I decided there is nothing at all I can do about it and remembering my mother’s words if I complained when I was young, my mother was a sister at a hospital, “ you have your health your children are healthy, you have a good life just be grateful for what you have and live your life to the full” my mother died at 65. I was feeling very down and then took myself in hand

Vivian Baker

Jul 05, 2020 12:30

I have never discussed my disgust with the "look so many years younger" phrase with any of my friends, but I detest it. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

I am 79 years old, and I hope I don't look like a hag, I take care of my eating and exercising habits, I read, I study, I travel, BUT I know I cannot look younger by using some cosmetic or cream, eating a certain food, taking a vitamin or anything else. I AM 79 and will be 80 (hopefully) next year. I feel so blessed to be this age with no major health issues, have a fabulous husband with no health issues, have 5 wonderful adult children with many grandchildren and great grandchildren. But most of all, I am thankful for my healthy, clear brain because I still love to learn, read and socialize with special friends. I am grateful for a long, healthy life. My dad died at 54 years old, my sister at 53, and I lost my mom at 83 about 20 years ago.

Seana Willmott

Jul 05, 2020 12:25

I agree with all you have said Tricia, but you left one thing out.
The 'old memory'! You have to totally concentrate when putting things away, or else you forget where you have put them; going into a room and forgetting why you went in there; forgetting people's names these are just a few tricks of the memory or lack of.
By the way I love your teatime chats.

Alison Stirling

Jul 05, 2020 12:01

your suggestions for comfortable stylish shoes; I swear by Hotter shoes (lovely for wide feet and bunions) and reasonably stylish.

Juliet Edwards

Jul 05, 2020 08:47

Dear Tricia

I agree with so much of what you say. But please consider those of us who would love to be lithe and fit. Because of an illness - Crohn’s Disease - and taking medication for all my adult life, I am not exactly the Wonder Woman I would so love to be. And for other reasons, mostly self-inflicted I belong to the Over 16 (size, well age too, of course) group. So, for example, lovely though they are, an L K Bennett jump suit or stretchy, Lycra exercise leggings are not for me. I wouldn’t inflict the sight of me crammed into these to anyone on our planet. And for “larger ladies” or whatever ghastly term describes us, looking stylish is doubly difficult. Good tailoring is only to be found in clothing for “us” which is well beyond financial reach. Maybe one piece a year, but that’s the clothing budget blown in one purchase.

So please think of us occasionally. I worked all my adult life and brought up two children, who seem to have turned into fine, funny, talented and generally lovely people. I admit to some bias here but their families and friends would support me. And always had to look smart or to use a ghastly phrase, ‘business like”. So I have always taken time and trouble and money in trying to fit this “business like” persona. And that’s been tough going most of the time. So now I am 70 (no, that can’t be me, I’ve mis-counted or Mum got my date of my birth mixed up etc, etc ) and can look pretty much how I want, the choice is bewildering, daunting and the decisions doubly difficult. Who is ‘me’? I can’t define myself as a professional woman (that sounds odd) or Mum (factually still true) or magistrate (enforced retirement at 70) or use any of the the other job titles I’ve had. I’m in strange territory. So avidly read every word of someone as sensitive and sensible as you.

But please, remember us. There must be thousands of women like me, also wandering around this challenging and scary environment.

And a P.S if you are still awake and haven’t lost that essential will to live after such a long email, I did get one of your lipsticks and quite unlike my usual rose pink, in fuchsia’. And, rather timidly, wore it. “Oh “ exclaimed my daughter, “ that lipstick looks fantastic. You look younger. And it makes your eyes look bluer.” Thank you, Tricia.

Barbara Stanton

Jul 05, 2020 05:25

I have a pet hate! Like a lot of people I find it a great intrusion of my privacy when someone telephones me to sell. However worse than that for me is when they ask “am I speaking to Barbara?” Or “is that Barbara?” I have no qualms in telling these people that I’am Mrs Stanton, and not to be referred to as Barbara. This is what my friends call me, and is my Christian name and far too familiar for a stranger to use. It’s even worse than someone saying “have a nice day!” Makes my flesh crawl!!!

Lynda

Jul 04, 2020 13:11

The bra equivalent of big knickers (I wear them too!) is non-wired bras. I was finding underwires uncomfortable, especially on one side, & discovered M&S foam-shaped non-wires. A revelation and I'm never going back unless for a special occasion. M&S have changed the style slightly which is not quite so good but there are now lots to choose from in many brands - they have obviously been listening! It's not just older women either but a lot of younger ones want something easier to wear.

Liz

Jul 01, 2020 06:01

Ah Tricia - visible signs of ageing! Like you I loathe that advert and grumble that they choose models who can't be a day over 25. Why the hell one would need a handful of skin plumpers at that age I fail to see!

I have just bought my second pair of 'comfies', flat and forgiving of bunions. The latest pair are bright orange suede so I have really branched out. At one time I thought I could never give up heels, but time has forced the issue, so I try for wedges! (The nightmare of having to wear lace-up school shoes and brown sandals (I wanted blue) has never left me.)

Grunting as I move around from sitting to standing has become par for the course and I'm much more aware of the need for frequent stretching. I also growl quite a lot, usually at the human race but it does help with not turning the air blue!

I wonder if our hearing is getting worse, admittedly it won't get a great deal better. The advances in digital audio technology have been profound but possibly not for clarity! There seems to be a muffled, fluffy sort of quality(?) except during the adverts - how strange! I shall try your tip of turning on the subtitles.

Foods can be a minefield! I love peppers but find they constantly return to greet me and pastry of most types can be a bit unnerving. A small dose of Gaviscon works wonders!

Technology leaves me floundering especially anything to do with sending photos and Zoom type of programmes. I am fairly late to the mobile phone revolution but am learning to use one now (I regularly forget it when I go out and get told off). My next mission is to learn more so that I can join in with all the fun and games on Super Troopers!

I do sometimes think 'how lovely to have a son like that' and my recent favourites have been Martin Kemp's son Ronan, Bradley Walsh's Barney, and the lovely Reggie Yates.

We are very different from our parents generation, let alone our grandparents; but the changes since the fifties have been astronomical in every respect.

Lastly, thank you Tricia for your inspiring blogs and lovely makeup
Kind regards
Liz Swift a Super Trooper member

Vicky

Jul 01, 2020 05:53

I am 67 and I put off having a hearing test for years but eventually decided to go when I saw how much hearing aids had transformed my sister's life. I have now used them for about two years and I feel much more engaged with life.

Gill Lane

Jul 01, 2020 03:37

I have just read your post and found myself going 'yes....yes....yes!' to each and every point.
Just like you I am 73 and fit. I exercise regularly and keep very active but have noticed lately
that i have to think/plan how I get down onto or up from my yoga mat. The process is also
accompanied by a certain amount of 'sighing'!
I could feel sad about this as I really enjoy the exercise and stretching but instead I will will be grateful for still being able to be so active and enjoy life when many cannot.
Thank you I really enjoyed reading your thoughts.
Gill

Priscilla

Jun 30, 2020 10:54

I am 81 so a bit further on than you, Tricia, but I totally agree with nearly all of your points especially the getting up one!!!
Priscilla Sharp

Miss Gaynor Parfitt

Jun 30, 2020 10:12

Dear Tricia,
Thank you for your points. I, too, feel like I don’t want to grow into a grumpy frumpy woman. You made me laugh when you said that you make a noise when you get up from your chair in the evenings, as I do that too now! I’ve tried a new hair colour in lockdown and really like it! Going to keep it. Lockdown has had some difficulties but it’s been great for some things, like having a lot of time for gardening or reading, etc. I have even done some dog and parrot training! I enjoy your Teatimes at the Ritz, so please keep it going. Best regards.
Gaynor

Jennifer

Jun 30, 2020 08:48

Reading this was like a breath of fresh air to me and I laughed at some comments and also identified with them. I’m 75 (who me?) am fit and lucky to be healthy and always want to try out new things including clothes and makeup.

Anne

Jun 30, 2020 08:02

Hi Tricia
I don’t know how you do it but time and again you voice my thoughts and fears, my aspirations and my ‘laugh out loud’ moments! Thanks for your inspiration and encouragement over the last few difficult months, it’s great to know I can dip into your positive and supportive videos if I am in need of a friendly face.
Kind regards
Anne

Karla Bottomley

Jun 30, 2020 07:46

Hi Tricia,
I thought you would appreciated hearing this... I saw Sir Paul McCartney last summer at Dodger Stadium here in Los Angeles (my 4th time of seeing him in concert over the years) anyway; at one point during the concert, he took off his jacket and the audience started screaming. I looked at my sister and said, "See, he's still a young, gorgeous man in our minds... not a 77 year old man who is a grandfather"

Sandra Johnson

Jun 30, 2020 07:24

I thought you were writing about me, except I don't have a personal trainer. I walk for about 90 mins per day with my dogs, off road on far from flat terrain, great for core stability!!! I have a very large garden, with a veg patch, large poly tunnel and far too many flower beds, thats what keeps me fit and supple. I too love stretchy leggings/trousers, but make sure I am not expanding by wearing some things that have rigid and fairly high waists. Keep up the good work

Pat

Jun 30, 2020 02:16

I enjoyed this so much Tricia. I remember not even realizing things were changing at first, and then slowly stiffness, skin changes, (I noticed that one on a cruse thinking my two piece bathing suit didn't look so good any more)feet changes, and like you say foods affecting me differently. My son-in-law asked me on one of my birthday celebrations, "if I felt older," I had to really think about that and realized my body did, but I still felt young as though nothing was changing in my mind. As long as I don't look in the mirror I am still the same. Thank goodness I have people to help me with the technical things, but I am definitely embracing all the things available to me through these tough times.

Patricia Plaisted

Jun 29, 2020 12:54

You are not alone. I am so relieved that you are experiencing some of the same annoyances as I. I feel it is just another stage in our development. We are fortunate to have made it to this stage. Attitude is the important skill to guide us through the final stage of our lives. The more positive we can be the easier it will be. A sense of humor is a valuable skill. I enjoy your blog. Helping us to look the best we can is valuable. Volunteer so we can be useful. Keep your friends near. Enjoy your family. Remember I lived my life my way and I alllow my children to do the same. Be grateful.
Thank you for your tea time visits. I truly enjoy them.
Patricia Plaisted
Virginia, USA.

Margaret

Jun 29, 2020 12:40

Hahaha! I agree with a couple of them but certainly not the comfy shoes (I love the variety of my shoe styles) and certainly not the elasticated waistband!! I think elasticated waistbands are a disaster and don’t keep you on top of expansion! If the waists of my jeans or skirts get too tight then I need to do something about it ASAP. Grunt a bit getting out of a chair and hearing is a tad reduced but love technology!! I’m 70 in February and I spend my spare time walking, more walking and learning Spanish. Margaret x

Luise Laidlow

Jun 29, 2020 12:26

I do so agree with you, especially your comments on hearing and technology. I sometimes think I'm living in a different world!

Claire

Jun 29, 2020 10:28

Re Mumbling,
Don’t always rush to the conclusion that your hearing is failing!
A lot of the actors now seem to be adopting this style, if you watch
an old film you might notice that you hear every word even when it’s
not in the clipped tone of Brief Encounter. I admire Sarah Lancashire
as an actor , but she can mumble from time to time, was intrigued
by how she would fair in the brilliant Talking Heads. She was marvellous,
every word was clear, even if you were vaguely shocked by what she said.

By the way, have just started to use your amazing Bring Back Brow
Shape, a little intimidating for the first use, but the very best result
when you persevere. Will never use anything else from now on!.

Thank You,
Claire

Anne

Jun 29, 2020 10:22

Hello Tricia,
I am just shy of 60 and am fortunate to have always been fit and active and, like others have already commented, in my head I’m still 30’ish. I dress well and have always looked after my skin (I still have lines though, who doesn’t?). I have never worn makeup other than my trusty lipstick, but that’s about to change now that I’ve found LFF. Anyway, back to the point, after years of wearing skimpy underwear (think g strings, pushy up bras etc) I decided comfort needed to be the order of the day and I discovered big knickers. The joy of a waistband up to the waist, my whole backend safely cocooned in cool cotton. The experience has been a revelation. I asked my lovely hubby what he thought, his reply, “as long as you’re comfy and happy then so am I”. I’m currently looking for the big knicker version of bras if anyone has any suggestions!
Stay safe and happy

caroline

Jun 29, 2020 10:05

I agree with most of your points, but can relate to the hearing one most of all. I am 10 years younger than you but was aware of all the symptoms you mentioned about 2 years ago. Like you I ignored them and decided I would deal with it 'later'.
However I am married and my husband was not prepared to put up with the loud volume on the tv any longer!
Eventually I agreed to have a hearing test, thinking that I would be fine. To my horror the audiologist told me I was hard of hearing in my right ear and that my left was beginning to deteriorate too! He suggested hearing aids and I came away in total shock. However 2 years down the line I am quite used to them, even though I don't wear them all day, and in lockdown even less( I know that's not really correct, but hey) The only problem is that I have kept it a secret from most of my friends as I see it as a sign of old age and do not want to admit to it. I do have one friend I confided in as she also wears them and is only 2 years older than me and she has helped my confidence. I know that I should be much more open about it and I am gradually working on telling more people. But I must say that being able to hear the tv clearly, without subtitles, the radio and my friends is great!

Jenifer Paul

Jun 29, 2020 09:49

1. Don’t wear heels anymore. Luckily trainers are very fashionable.
2. Don’t like elastic waist on trousers, leggings & sweat pants for lounging are ok.
3.Grunting noises on getting up from couch - YES.
Not so much any of the others but I do feel older in general this year (I’m 75). Like you, paddling in the shallows of older age but rolled my trousers up to my knees just in case a big wave comes.
I’m surprised at your comments on technology. I think you always appear so polished, professional and relaxed when doing Tea Time at the Ritz.

Christine Belringer

Jun 29, 2020 09:44

Stiffness is my most annoying symptom, followed by the hearing problem. Like you, Tricia, I have been tolerating the mumbling actors on the tv but, on speaking to a friend who recently started work at a hearing centre I feel that something must be done. She advised me that the loss of hearing is down to the little “hairs” in the middle ear losing activity...lying down effectively. She says that if help is given via a hearing aid (which can be minute) the “hairs” remain active. Once they’ve given up they cannot be resurrected so the level of hearing loss is progressive the longer it’s left. I had no idea!

Hazel

Jun 29, 2020 09:21

Loved reading your 7 signs of ageing, made me smile.
I have hearing aids, they can’t be seen as my hair covers my ears. Reluctant to get them at first as it was like admitting I was on the downward slippery slope. Happy to wear them now as I don’t miss bits of conversations!
Enjoyed reading everyone else’s comments as well.
Remember the saying, ‘never grow old no matter how old you are’!

Brenda

Jun 29, 2020 08:46

Commenting for a second time - I've now been sitting at my pc for absolute ages and can't stop pressing the "load more" button! I have loved reading all the comments. Mainly though, I want to say a huge thank you for all the time you have spent keeping our spirits up during lockdown. You have been a real inspiration and so very entertaining. We could not have wished for more. It's like hearing from a good friend. THANK YOU SO MUCH Tricia and much love.

Helen

Jun 29, 2020 08:45

Tricia
I have thoroughly enjoyed your 'teatime at the Ritz' videos during lockdown and have been using them as a kind of counselling session My stepmother, who is only 15 years older than me, has a very negative attitude to aging and my own attitude was being influenced by this constant negativity

Just from watching your videos I think I have managed to alter, to a great extent, my own attitude to the approaching years and instead of looking upon them with trepidation I am now determined to make the most of them

I have taken your advice about appearance but more importantly attitude and feel I can face the coming years with less trepidation now (I have even ordered some Tooally ear-rings!)

Thank You Tricia
Helen Grateful Goode

Brenda

Jun 29, 2020 08:38

Hi Tricia, I found myself laughing and nodding at almost all of your 7 signs.. Hotter have served me well for over 10 years now, shoes need to be comfortable as soon as I try them on. I wish all of my waistbands could be stretchy, not only are they comfy but also effortless for those frequent toilet trips. For years I've moaned the words "ooh la la Cantona" when getting up stiffly after being seated for too long. My husband and I have a lifelong habit of listening to radio plays when we go to bed, if it's something I don't fancy, I simply sleep on my good ear. And, yes they certainly do mutter softly and mumble a lot more on tv these days! A piece of toast or crisps early in the evening leads to indigestion. Dread new phones and leave the smart tv and speakers to my husband to handle. Likewise I mainly leave the shouting at the telly and critical comments to him. Love my grandchildren and the funny little things they've said and done over the years. My own children were always used to me wearing make-up for work or going out. When eldest son was about 6 he became quite anxious about getting a new teacher. When he came home and I asked him what his new teacher was like, he said she was okay but her face was raw! When I looked puzzled he said "you know ... how your face looks after you clean your make-up off"...

Penn Kirk

Jun 29, 2020 08:21

I love this Tricia and oh so true, even though I am only 63. I can relate to this although my hearing is spectacular, I am very lucky!
A couple of additions. Country walks - I always step more carefully than I used to, going down slopes and clambering up rocks, not so agile these days. Also, a while back I jumped across a ditch and found my spring had sprung and landed in the middle!
About two years ago when I was saying goodbye to the children at the front door of the school, I noticed one of the seven year olds going up to his father who was collecting him that day, who was accompanied by a very handsome man, I hadn't seen before. The next day, I nonchalantly asked the boy about this gentleman who I assumed was an uncle or family friend and it turned out to be his grandfather. At that point I realised I was beginning to show my age!

Eugenia

Jun 29, 2020 08:08

Tricia, I'm right there with you on all of them but the last one. I still see a gorgeous young man and inwardly go 'woof.' Then I shake my head and chuckle at myself. Inside I still feel about 32. Ha! Thanks for all you do. I love the products and have been using them almost exclusively for a couple of years now. Just got refills today actually. What I love most is that when I use these products, I feel like me, confident and ready for what life brings. I have a picture of me I've wanted to upload but can't quite figure out how (see #6 above). Whenever I see it, I think, that's me on LFF!
Thanks, Eugenia Gamble, Alabama USA

Maureen

Jun 29, 2020 06:07

And I thought it was just me! My other bug bear is I cannot garden without my strong long handled kneeling stool. Always been a hands and knees gardener
to ‘get in there’ I find it most frustrating that I now have to carefully place the stool so I can kneel on it and not damage any plants. Last week I forgot, and knelt down to look at something closely and then realised I couldn’t get up. Living on my own and few nearby neighbours , that was not good. I managed to crawl to my raised beds ( what a god-send ) and haul my self up.That’s another note to myself along with my sons admonishing always have your phone on you. My body doesn’t match what I think I can still do.

Jacqueline Brough

Jun 29, 2020 06:07

Thank you Tricia! from a grateful pommy (now living in Oz!)

I am totally into your insightful and helpful hints, comments and education around a wonderful myriad of topics relating to us women embarking on and/or surviving our senior years :-)

You have helped me immensely through the transition into mature womanhood where our self-esteem can so often be somewhat wilted. I have your book and resonate with many of its chapters. Lovely!

A sign of aging for me is finally having a sense of self-approval and not looking outside of myself for someone else's approval!

Another fantastic sign of aging is having the ability to not take yourself oh so seriously. It's good to have a laugh and a healthy sense of humour. The body creaks, the unruly hair or just repeatedly getting told you're so set in your ways is all a wonderful reminder that we have arrived!

Tricia, I salute you!

Jacqueline

Sue McQuillen

Jun 29, 2020 05:58

Thank you for this blog. I recognised so much of myself here and had to have a good laugh.

Cheers Sue

Valerie

Jun 29, 2020 04:25

I've done everything you mention but I would like to comment on hearing. Like you my hearing has got worse without me noticing and I put on the subtitles when watching a drama or film on TV to catch those mumbled words though mostly I can manage perfectly well.

Unfortunately the saying 'if you don't use it, you lose it' is true. I do have hearing aids because I have lost the middle tones of my hearing - I of course don't notice it. BUT when you lose some of your hearing the nerve pathways between ears and brain start to shut down, which is why you should get hearing aids even though you can manage without, don't wait until you are really deaf. Once these pathways are lost, your hearing has gone forever, aids or no aids. Hearing aids these days are almost invisible to others and are easy to use, and they are excellent - those supplied by the NHS are top of the range and you gain nothing by going private. Even the batteries are free, which I just pick up from my local Specsavers. I'm not in the hearing aid business by the way.

But I do find that with sunglasses or spectacles as well and maybe long dangly earrings (which I rarely wear) and clips to keep my hair back until I can get my hair cut, and maybe a hat,cap or hood to hide from the rain/sun, and of course face masks, sometimes there is just too much going on around my ears and an aid will get pulled out (not painful), just irritating. And it's remarkable that even though your hearing is impaired you also find some noises unbearably loud - such as a group of young women enjoying themselves with a few cocktails, or young women speaking in an American film - it's always young women, never men - it must be something to do with the timbre of their voices.

Susannah Swindell

Jun 29, 2020 03:57

Total agreement on all 7. Great blog, thank you.

Cynthia

Jun 29, 2020 03:03

Tricia, I agree with you as well on all counts ... especially about the "waist bands." But the one thing I still can't get over is that white-haired woman staring back at me from my mirror!!! It continues to surprise me that that's ME - and that we're actually becoming friends!!!

Brenda Dyck

Jun 28, 2020 20:08

I agree with many of your seven and can add a few of my own to your list. 1) Over the past year (even before the pandemic) I have become very comfortable staying home- in fact I totally treasure my quiet time. In the past I would feel like I should be out and about. Knitting and reading has become a favourite pass time- a time to decompress, think and be transported to another place. I like to picture myself as being part of the company of the many young women who knit gorgeous modern knit projects- I’ve joined an online knitting group and I’m constantly challenged by the number of young women who are knitting and designing beautiful patterns. 2) I’ve noticed I’m spending quite a bit of time reflecting on my like. I recall my mother doing that in her 80s and 90s. I’m only 67 but I’ve noticed I’m doing a lot of reflecting. I understand this is not uncommon- it’s how we make sense of our life and think about what we’d still like to accomplish. 3) I’ve noticed I’m less inclined to do things I’ve never really enjoyed. For example, I’ve always hated getting up early in the morning. I spent a lifetime riding earlier than I wanted to. Now I’m embracing my true self (staying in bed as long as I want- usually riding around 9:30 am

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Mai

Jun 28, 2020 18:35

Tricia, I'm a little deeper in the water than you at 78, but my oh my, you have really nailed all those signs of aging and you are certainly not alone. I read out your blog to my husband and we had a good old chuckle because everything you said is so ooo true. But hey you're fantastic and I'm sure you'll look fabulous forever xxx

Margaret Allan

Jun 28, 2020 13:55

Hi Tricia. I agree with all of your seven signs of ageing. I did however sort out the hearing 4 years ago. The hearing aids don't work miracles in noisy environments, but are brilliant for the TV. In my world now, hardly any Dramas have actors who mumble. I do have an eighth sign on my list. No matter how much you squint at the menu in a restaurant or hold it up to the light, you can no longer read it without the aid of your reading glasses. Or worse still, you've forgotten your reading glasses and have to ask someone to read the menu to you. Even the daylight lightbulbs I installed at home a few years ago aren't as effective as they used to be. Thank goodness the Kindle has size adjustment for the font.
Keep up the good work

Ann Matthews

Jun 28, 2020 13:55

Tricia you are not alone! I have exactly the same feelings about all you've mentioned! The comfy waistbands, the extra half size larger shoe to contain my bulging feet, and that anybody in authority only looks a teenager, even the vet only looked 12 the other day! Even your father's comment re the music resonated with me as my father was the same and always complaining about the awful pop music and how could I possibly understand a word they were saying with all that noise going on, a comment I make quite often when shopping in supermarkets and now after losing 2 stone in weight the wrinkly arms and face - the latter of which at least can be improved with your lovely make-up! Still, inside I only feel about 25 so as long as I don't look in the mirror too hard and without my glasses I will carry on feeling young at heart! So from a young at heart 74 year old keep up the good work and keep us feeling young.

Kathy

Jun 28, 2020 13:50

I agree entirely with you I celebrated my 70th birthday during lockdown and am a slim reasonably active woman.However getting up after watching tv for a period of time is not the experience it used to be. Neither do I jump out of bed in the morning full of vigour. I totally agree with the comment re your digestive system and how you suddenly realise that it is not as resilient as it used to be at night
Thank you Trisha

Elaine

Jun 28, 2020 13:08

Oh Tricia, how I laughed at your 7 signs of ageing. You are so not alone, all 7 rang true for me. I have a wardrobe full of lovely court shoes but now prefer pumps and loafers, thanks to my bunions! My stretchy yoga trousers are so comfortable, I am always loath to take them off and talking of yoga, despite my regular practice and walking the dog, I too emit the odd grunt when rising from the sofa. Eating late is a definite no no and that also goes for a cup of tea, heaven forbid I give in to chocolate ....... a mug of hot water has become my friend! I have a love/hate relationship with technology. Hate that I’ve got to have the patience to get to grips with a new piece of equipment but love it when I discover what amazing things I can do. I’m not a grandmother yet but live in hope, although my daughters tell me not to hold my breath! However, many doctors, policemen, politicians, scientists and ‘experts in their field‘, all appear to me, to have bunked off school for the day! xx
Ps The subtitles have also come into play.

Cathy Williams

Jun 28, 2020 13:08

Oh, Tricia, I hear you. At 73, my body isn't keeping up with my head space. I've had bilateral hip and knee surgery (first hip at age 56!), bilateral cataract surgery, and had to get hearing aids. Despite this, my attitude has remained extremely positive, and made me grateful for the things I still can do, like using hand weights for my arms, riding my exercise bike and the occasional walk. Life is sweet, my general health is good, and my husband and children bring me joy.

sheila

Jun 28, 2020 13:06

TRICIA I AGREE WITH YOU AND FEEL THE SAME. ONE DOES NOT WISH TO WEAR FRUMPY SHOES/CLOTHES. INDEED I WISH THAT I HAD A GRANDSON LIKE MARCUS RASHFORD HE MUST MAKE HIS MUM VERY PROUD. SINCE LOCKDOWN I HAVE BEEN HAVING MY DINNER NOW LUNCH AT LUNCHTIME (WELL I HAVE A HUBBY) I FIND EATING MUCH MORE CONVENIENT AT THAT TIME AND DO NOT LIKE EATING TOO LATE IN THE EVENING IF I HAVE TO 7.00 IS LATE ENOUGH.THOUGH OTHERS LIKE EATING LATE I COULD NEVER SEE WHY ANY WAY.I HAVE BEEN WALKING WHERE I LIVE DOWN TO THE RIVER EVERY DAY THIS SINCE 17 MARCH SO I AM UP ABOUT 5ISH AND THEREFORE IN BED ABOUT 9.00PM. I HAVE ALWAYS GONE TO THE GYM ANY WAY EARLY SO DECIDED TO WALK EARLY INSTEAD IT ADDED STRUCTURE TO MY DAY, OTHERS THINK I AM MAD BUT I THINK I WILL CONTINUE WHEN ALL IS OVER. IT IS LOVELY WATCHING THE WILDLIFE AND THEIR ANTICS.
I CAN MEANDER I KNOW AND AM SORRY. SHEILA X

Eleanor

Jun 28, 2020 13:03

I agree with your statement on the signs 'aging' and like you I have purposely gone through the ritual of wash dress,hair, jewellery each morning and most mornings adding make-up, depending on the day ahead (gardening = adding make-up later in the day). Items need to be seen and tried on but the new procedure you describe does seem promising and could possibly help in the choosing.
I am missing my Pilates classes and playing badminton and cannot see that happening any time soon but try to do ten minutes of Pilates each morning. I have not participated in the prescribed daily walk - there is just too much to do around the house and garden but maybe consequently, this has, I feel added to a decline in my fitness and lack of success in losing a few pounds of weight! That's my excuse anyway (she says after having just enjoyed a fruit & nut (healthy) bar with my cup of coffee).
I look forward to y our future 'words of wisdom'!

Sally green

Jun 28, 2020 12:45

Hi Tricia I love listen to your Teatime at the Ritz every week.You have given me some fantastic tips on makeup plus bought lots from you as well.Im 61 but I don’t feel my age I never feel tired and have plenty of energy.I love fashion and my accessories have to match.Ive even bought 3 pairs of the Toolally earrings.They are amazing.Take care

Barbara

Jun 28, 2020 12:35

Let’s talk about bras! I’ve spent many a day braless during lockdown and what bliss it has been

Christine

Jun 28, 2020 12:29

I agree with everything on your list except one. My hearing has become so sensitive that any small noise has me completely wired! You have no idea how many windows creak and latches whine when not fastened completely. I think I will relocate to a library and just read in peace and QUIET

Susan

Jun 28, 2020 12:26

Good news that I just learned about! You don't have to hurt after sitting for an extended period of time. It is the way we sit that causes the pain and stiffness. It is a posture thing. I thought I had arthritis of the spine when standing up after say sitting to read emails in the morning. Not so! Sitting with a rounded lower back has one sitting on the tail bone. Sitting straight (hard to do) has one sitting on the sitz bones.

Susan

Janet

Jun 28, 2020 12:23

Your not alone in your seven signs of ageing - but some can be improved on. if you grunt when getting up from the sofa, raise it's height a bit. Most sofas are too low for good posture anyway. Like you, comfy but fairly stylish shoes are a must and are available, but although I'm not a fan of elastic waistbands stretchy jeans are also a must. I was introduced to IT and technology through my career as a librarian, so its change and development have not been too difficult to keep up with, although I'm not as extreme as my son, who builds his own super-fast, water-cooled computers.
I remember my grandmother saying to me when I was about 18 and she was 80 that she still felt 18 inside.

mavis

Jun 28, 2020 12:22

Oh Tricia, I can identify with all of your seven signs! But do you remember that dreadful song of the
50's- 'Stay young and beautiful, if you want to b e loved' My goodness what a travesty! Being loved is about what's on the inside a loving and caring attitude surely. That song would be banned today I hope. Never mind staying young...for me the most important thing is a smile that comes from the heart, that's true beauty at whatever age!

Sue Bungey

Jun 28, 2020 12:16

I’ve been in the only able to eat certain foods at certain times camp for a while now. Quite agree about the comfy shoes but you still want style.
My hearing is not so good as it once was but can be quite a blessing at times!
So yes, I do agree, everyone looks so young. Have also noticed that my daughters are now taking over the ‘parent’ relationship with me, at times!
Does anyone else feel that you have a great store of experience but nobody else finds it relevant!
Sue

Elizabeth Miller

Jun 28, 2020 12:15

Fear not!! You are not alone.
1. Even the young wear comfy shoes, so relax and wear what you like.
2. Stretchy waistbands are wonderful and we are fortunate to have the choice.
3. The trick is to be aware and make an effort to avoid the grunt when rising from your chair or better still, do not sit too long in one go. You don't want this noise to sound when you get back with friends and family and going to the real cinema and restaurant!
4. Some people have a lifetime of hearing deficiency - get your hearing checked and do not be embarrassed to wear an aid. There are many almost invisible aids on the market. I know that people start treating you as something else - because they can't see your deafness (a bit like COVID-19). Visible ailments bring more understanding. Aids are just like your comfy shoes and waistbands.
5. I have never been a fan of eating at 8pm, but I know some who are, so everyone to there own.
6. Technology - definitely agree with you. How great though that home schooling has been able to take place via this system.
7. It is a natural sign that we are 70+ and find some professionals look so very young. As a Beatles fan, Paul McCartney was also my idol and he has turned out fit and well. Our parents and grandparents didn't have the same freedoms, so we are the lucky generation to have been brought up with the opportunities in life and to do so without hindrance. You have always "gone for it"and that keeps you young at heart. Every day over 70 is a bonus, so make the most of each one as a present - I'm sure I've heard you on this topic, so you do know! Keep your chin up - you look smart (and I do like your car) and keep admiring all these handsome, wise young men (and women).

Carole Harvey

Jun 28, 2020 12:15

Dear Tricia,
I agree wholeheartedly with your article. I especially object to the word Elderly! So from now on I have decided to be a Queenager!

I enjoy your blogs every Sunday thanks so much.

Vicky

Jun 28, 2020 12:14

You are definitely not alone Tricia, I can identify with all you have written in your blog. I only wear comfortable clothes and shoes and I am a technophobe (my husband worked in IT so I guess I don’t have to do it and rely on him..which is not good!). I too grunt when I get up from the floor or a chair and my hearing loss is bad so I wear hearing aids in both ears, despite this I still need the subtitles when watching TV.
I’m in my early 60s and it concerns me what condition my body and mind may be in 10 years from now!

Jane reynolds

Jun 28, 2020 11:58

Here we go .......” you guys” ...DRIVES me mad!!

Cathy Rogers

Jun 28, 2020 11:58

Yup, all of the above! Except maybe the grandmother bit....I'm new to that party as my first grandchild is only one year old and with lockdown, I haven't had the opportunity to really adjust my self-identity as a practising grandma! Good to know we are not alone in our "oldie" habits/thoughts, a sense of humour goes a long way...rather than seeing these things as negative I prefer to consider them a perfectly sensible antidote to what can sometimes seem like the fascism of youth! After all, as you keep saying, there's nothing wrong with getting older! Thank you Tricia, I always look forward to your blogs.

Mary Smith

Jun 28, 2020 11:56

I agree about the sound on most dramas , its very difficult to hear ,yet when I listen to the news ,I can hear every word, I have my evening meal at five oclock , and have no problem sleeping , I'm also loking at comfortable stylish footwear , and yes I do groan when iget up from sitting , I'm very fit doing yoga , at home ,I walk miles every day , im seventy three , like you tricia I like to look my best , in these odd times .

Patricia

Jun 28, 2020 11:54

Good morning from a wet and windy Ayrshire coast! Your comments on subtitles made me laugh out loud as I too use them! I wouldn't be in a hurry to get hearing aids! I know too many people who have spent a considerable amount on them and not been wholly satisfied with the outcome! I share some of what you say......not your view of young men nor the getting out if a chair! However I can no longer squat down! Due to painful knees! When I see people doing that to look at the bottom shelf say in a shop I always think I wish I could still do that. My signs of ageing are slight (or sometimes not so slight!)anxiety and/or worry at doing some things or going places that a few years ago I wouldn't have turned a hair at! Even the thought of putting air in my tyres can fill me with dread! I have to give myself a severe talking to! Also the weak bladder......! I think the trick is to stay as open as possible to new things and to maintain a sense of humour and to be able to recognise if you're straying away from that! We have to remember however that age can mean we have a rounded and balanced view on many things because we've experienced things and seen things throughout our lives and we must not be afraid to give an opinion.

Jan Hildrewj

Jun 28, 2020 11:54

This is the first time I have made a comment on any of the blogs,but it was as if you were reading my mind.

Clare

Jun 28, 2020 11:54

Again you are absolutely spot on - I recognise all of your 7 signs of ageing.....and I find myself often thinking "you are becoming your mother"!!! But I like your way of ageing - of "wearing purple and dancing on tables" (or in your case lots of fabulous earrings) and not being cowed by it. You have showed us through your videos during lockdown that getting older is OK and fun and that we can still be glamorous and look good.....my family tell me I look ten years younger than I did through choice of hair (well, pre-lockdown hair!), clothes and make-up...… So thank you for all your thoughts and wise words.

Jane reynolds

Jun 28, 2020 11:52

Love your blog. Yes exactly, why on earth would we like to wake up 40/50 years younger! I also think I would have nothing in common with people of this age( not as friends) they seem to think differently, to how we did at their age.......or do they?!.
It is different when looking at your own children ( mine 50 and 52 ) and my grandchildren....it is the other millions!
My hearing is OK, apart from having wax in one ear, which needs removing. I live alone so have no one annoying me..... Lets all thank the Lord, for allowing us to be ourselves.!

Mary Smith

Jun 28, 2020 11:49

I agree

Janet

Jun 28, 2020 11:47

Ditto to everything you’ve covered Tricia. ‘Getting up from the sofa” - some time ago I noticed my son, who was in his late 40’s then, started grunting when standing up. I said nothing but took special note of whenever he did it. I thought long and hard and came to the conclusion that it was becoming a habit with him. So much so that I am now mentally aware each time I alight from a sitting position not to grunt, so far so good. With digestion I find following the old adage, breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and supper like a pauper helps enormously in both weight stability and digestive problems. Not easy with work commitments I know. I found when I accepted the usual ageing process I was able to adopt then adapt (comfortable but stylish shoes, hearing, technology....). Being in this current situation I’d imagine very few of us have been getting our usual exercise but instead have been adapting routines instead. Exercise, as you mention in most of your articles is essential, so lack of it is bound to make many of us feel lethargic at times, I know it does me. However social contact I feel is a cause for concern for a lot of people. Phone calls and zoom are fine from a contact point of view but it doesn’t beat face to face communication. Socialising is a necessity in the older age group and helps to keep us grounded. Right in deep lockdown at the end of April it was my 80th birthday which was a complete non event so I’ve decided I’m not going to be 80 until next year ! Cheers everyone and stay safe.

Barbara

Jun 28, 2020 11:46

Oh dear Tricia.......you are NOT alone! What a delightful message,it has made me feel almost normal!
I so enjoy your disarming honesty and sense of humour, please don't stop!

J Matcham

Jun 28, 2020 11:39

That made me laugh I thought it would be about age spots and double chins.

I am lucky that I have aged very well, looks wise but yes its all the other ways that creep up on you That makeup won’t fix. It's loud music for me it tends to make me anxious yet I used to love it.

In lock down I sorted out my shoes and got rid of anything over a 2inch heel and anything that I once grin and beared the pain of. Life is too short for sore feet.
Ps I love your cushions they would fit into my home brilliantly.

Maureen Morgan

Jun 28, 2020 11:34

You missed another one - finding night driving not so easy. When my mother used to complain about driving in the dark I used to think - silly old fool' More fool me, now.

Lynda

Jun 28, 2020 11:34

Thank you for your very amusing blog today Tricia. I'm 68 next month and I can identify with all you say. Husband and I both had hearing tested with no problems detected;in fact the man stopped mine early. Despite this I think my hearing has deteriorated and that his is worse! We need subtitles for accents particularly. We eat earlier now and smaller meals as well.I recently lost a bit of weight using 'shakes' (Almased) which I always swore I'd never do but it worked well and I'm back to ordinary eating without putting it back. I'm often a bit hungry but I can tolerate that to keep my BMI around 25. We were watching'Ambulance'the other day and there was an emergency call for a 68 year old woman and I suddenly realised that that could be me - me 68 surely not?!
I took up exercise last year and I'm much more flexible now. Every session I feel I won't be able to get through it but I do, & my chronic pain condition may not be much better but it certainly is no worse as I feared when I started. My feet have been damaged by wearing high heels for decades so shoes are more of a problem now. They need a fastening and a cushioned but not a flat sole. Ballerinas are some of the worst shoes anyone can wear. I still wear heels in the evening on cruises & 'car-to-bar' lunches out. I wear dresses to avoid waistbands altogether. If anything I think I'm more tolerant now, or at least I try to think about something before I make a judgement, whereas I thought I knew everything when I was young!

Jun 28, 2020 11:22

Technology is useful but boring. It takes up too much time and far from giving us more free time I find the opposite applies. I learn about the bits I'm going to use and ignore the rest.
My old mobile phone sends and receives calls/texts and that's all. I have no close family and my friends are even worse than me with 'techy stuff'.
I hate eating late, my stomach doesn't want to know. It's always been like that so invitations to dinner means eating a very light meal before I go, then eating less when I'm out.
I've always gone for footwear with a small heel-- flats hurt my feet. Other than that I'm fine. Don't grunt, hearing very good, can cope with normal waistbands and still look at attractive younger men. I haven't grandchildren so maybe that makes a difference. I'm 76 and not about to give up just yet.

Miranda Fagandini

Jun 28, 2020 11:14

I do agree with the person who urged you to get your hearing checked - I think not hearing what people are saying is much more ageing than wearing a hearing aid! I had this tussle with my husband so when we both turned 60 and were invited for a free hearing test, I insisted that we both go. Mine is fine but he had lost about 25% of his hearing probably due to age but also going to a lot of rock concerts when he was younger and being one of the early fans of the Walkman with its headphones (no noise banishing ones in the early days, so you had to have it quite loud to block external noise). He was heavily resistant at first but spoke with his gp about it who sent him to the hospital. Long story short, he now has NHS hearing aids which are tiny and hook behind the ear. I would urge people to get checked and if you're really unsure, go for a pair of NHS ones first to see if you notice any difference. It has also made life at home rather more harmonious, which has been a bonus!

Mary Bromilow

Jun 28, 2020 11:13

I recognise all of these signs, and as one who has had the 50th anniversary of my 23rd birthday it all sounds (un)comfortably familiar. Comfortable shoes, elastic waistbands and a recently acquired hearing aid tell their own tale. I refuse to identify as old, though, I’m proud of my years. I just need to train myself out of the ‘ouf’ as I rise from the chair.......

Glenice young

Jun 28, 2020 11:13

You are not alone! I also have to concentrate in noisy environments on catching what people are saying but like you it’s not bad enough to bother about so just have t v loud, I am keeping up with technology and have done zoom once after instructions from children and grandchildren but inwardly groan when yet some other new technology pops up, then I have to be shown at least three times before I master it but I do in the end. My family seem to tolerate it quite well and put it down to being a bit scatty, but I was always this! I don’t seem to mind at all but am careful to not verbalise some of my thoughts as I’m vain enough to not be thought older, so I do try and keep up with the jargon but occasionally get laughed at when I get it wrong, which I have done on purpose sometimes to get a laugh, in a way it’s my way of getting my own back as I really know the answer, is that weird?

Susan

Jun 28, 2020 11:06

Dear Tricia,
I have been reading all the emails that I have gotten from LFF. I have so enjoyed all your tutorials and commentaries. I finally decided to give your makeup line a try and was so happy you broke the makeup down into color tones. Ordering from your website was a breeze. Being from the US, I was wondering if you had a site to order from here?
I turned 68 this year and it certainly has been a change for me seeing all my creepy
skin arrive along with the “avalanche”

Tricia Carrington

Jun 28, 2020 11:02

Hello Tricia, you are certainly not alone! Some of the ‘Signs of Ageing’ I’m sure, can be quite depressing, particularly the realisation of not having as much energy as we age. Having recently had my 72nd birthday, my positivity somedays, can turn into gloom and doom and negative “What Ifs.” Having been a usually very happy person, I really have to fight these feelings! Finally, my biggest hate is: we all know how important it is to drink plenty of water, which I try to do. My annoyance is, my “drinking plenty of water days” now have to be worked around my days out! Say no more! Thank you for your honesty Tricia and for all that you share with all of us.

Lesley McDowall

Jun 28, 2020 10:54

Hi Tricia,
It was good to read your thoughts on ageing differently. I can identify with some of what you say. But I have my own ageing nightmares. I’m 67 but prefer to remember myself at 40 or 50.
Like you I have a personal trainer, and through Lockdown I’ve managed with his Skype sessions. I used to go to Zumba but now use DVDs to give me a daily fix. All of this makes me sound fit and coping. With one new knee, I’ve just started the process for a second one. I love my Zumba but my knee reminds me I’m having to be careful.
I wear ‘proper’ clothes, top and bottom, I’ve enjoyed wearing summer dresses regardless of not going out and about. If I’m ‘zooming’ anyone then full makeup is on, but also taking advantage of giving my skin a rest from foundation etc. Must be honest, on those days I avoid the mirror.
I was/ am a teacher as well as a grandmother. During the months prior to Lockdown I regularly visited my family, granddaughters in London, I’m in Somerset, to look after them and take them to nursery/school. Now I realise how precious that time was and I miss it dreadfully. Zoom has saved my sanity as I ‘teach’ the girls on a regular basis, we quiz once a week too.
I guess I’ll still refuse to age in any conventional sense. If my bones and body ache I’ll put up with it and take the odd tablet. I’ll keep the Zumba going, I love it. But each time I see my girls I’ll remember the benefits of being a grandmother and everything that means.
I love to write and a collection of stories for my girls has grown and grown.
I’ve kept the rules, stayed safe, and don’t yearn for the pub or the restaurant but I do yearn for a cuddle.
As Lockdown eases I hope us as mature members of society will appreciate our families more and enjoy being senior.

Marie Briddon

Jun 28, 2020 10:46

Thank you Tricia - you make me smile.

Small grunt upon standing - JUST DON'T DO IT
its just a habit
At times my right thigh is quite painfull, but
I will not allow my self to make a noise on standing.
I think before I stand (sometimes quite a mental effort
and I think to myself - DON'T)

It,s a bit like taking small shuffling steps - another no no

I would like to take this opportunity to thank you from
the bottom of my heart for your help and supportive
posts during the past months.
It was a lot of work for you and I hope you know how
much it has been appreciated

Warmest wishes Marie

Judith Gunn

Jun 28, 2020 10:43

I understand 6 out of 7 of those signs, plus I have never been able to eat late at night, but I have a little bugbear about technology. I've been using computers since 1985, not because I work in IT, but because I thought I ought to keep up with what was going on - and by 1990 I had to submit work on disc. A decade later I became a teacher and embraced technology in the classroom and pleaded with colleagues to do the same. Tech' offered so many opportunities and it was clear that the world was going online, from banks to prescriptions. Since 2015 I have taught online, and now create resources for online teaching sites, well I'm a WASPI, how else am I going to be able to buy makeup?! As you say it does take some effort, but the more you do it the easier it becomes, I'm trying to learn piano in lockdown and it's not nearly as hard as that, it's not as dangerous as driving and my Spanish is taking years to become fluent - tech is another learning curve, but learning is good for older people right?!

Christina

Jun 28, 2020 10:43

Yes, agree with you. I will never get used to being addressed as “you guys” or any of the other Americanisms that have seem to have taken over.

Chris Gilbey

Jun 28, 2020 10:37

I am with you on every aspect of this blog - you are spot on, as usual.

Jela

Jun 28, 2020 10:36

Tricia, when you are able to please get your hearing checked. We should have our hearing checked every two years from age 50. I didn't know this until recently, I'm 63, but it makes sense.

We get dental check-ups regularly. Opticians too, but we neglect our hearing, often until it's too late. The sooner one knows what's causing the hearing loss, the more effective, the treatment is. Don't leave it too late.

Lynne

Jun 28, 2020 10:34

Oh Tricia, a lovely chuckle with my Sunday morning coffee, when I always enjoy your blog. My doctor told me once, I’m sure you know the one, that nice young man, that we don’t get old, we simply get older. So I’m simply getting older, yes with some visible signs, but as for old, goodness, I’m way too young to be old x

Christina

Jun 28, 2020 10:33

Oh how I relate to all your comments, Tricia. I empathise completely. I also turn on subtitles when watching TV as, particularly in films, people seem to mumble. I think this is not just to do with our hearing but there has been a trend for some time to go for ”naturalistic” speech along with “naturalistic” lighting so that we can hardly hear or see what’s going on in some scenes. What a treat it is when a traditionally trained actor speaks clearly, projecting his or her voice so that the audience as well as fellow actors can hear what they are saying (as in some of the Shakespearean plays that have been available as part of BBC’s Culture in Lockdown. I particularly enjoyed The Tempest, filmed at the Globe.)

Anthea Spurrier

Jun 28, 2020 10:32

I have to agree with everything you have written. Personally, I would have to add another ... intolerance. There are many things that are happening now that make my blood boil. However, there is much to be content about .... grandchildren, not having to rush here and there, being able to go for walks in the woods or on the beach at a leisurely pace whenever one wishes to.

Patricia Wilson

Jun 28, 2020 10:31

You are most certainly not alone !!!!
My head is still 40 but my body is many years in front.
I seemed more or less ok till my late 60 s then joint problems really knocked me forward.
Have to admit, as a nurse, I spent most of my life in comfy shoes & could not wear high heels at any time, Thank heaven's for Fitflop.
I do believe an elasticated waist is fashionable!
My hearing is fine ( I think ) but if it wasn't I would get one of those tiny, made to measure hearing aids for inside my ear. I am rather nosey & don't like to miss anything.
I have exactly the same attitude & aptitude with technology, but I would hate to be without it now.
I take heart from the fact that even you with your very healthy lifestyle & as far as I know, no replacement joints ,is suffering like the rest of us!
Best wishes, looking forward to tomorrow's Zoom.
Patricia

Jo Chittenden

Jun 28, 2020 10:31

This did make me chuckle - I can identify with every point especially the loss of hearing, comfy shoes and elastic waistbands (oh, and grunting when I heave myself up from a chair). I love to relax in my bath but I end up sitting in cold water dreading having to heave myself out. I move backwards and forwards to get a wave going and then ride the wave, grabbing for the taps, and yanking myself up. How did it come to this?!!!

Diana

Jun 28, 2020 10:22

Hi Tricia, everything that you have written it could be a mirror image of me. I started out alright when lockdown first started I’m on my own and I find it difficult to get motivated.I have a guilty feeling when I have a moan because there are people worse off than me. I have enjoyed so much “tea at the Ritz” and loving your products keep talking to us and thank you.Diana x

Marjorie

Jun 28, 2020 10:21

Tricia, you are so right! I haven't reached the point of groaning when I heave myself off the couch, but I do find myself hobbling for several steps before walking normally. Maybe it's because of lockdown and not getting as much exercise as I am used to but I find stairs especially more of a trial these days. I have also startedtaking indigestion tablets, something I have only had to do during lockdown.

Margaret

Jun 28, 2020 10:19

Comfy shoes -yes! stretchy waistband - yes! hearing - seems normal when I'm home with my husband but when I go to stay with my daughter & family, I can't hear their tv and sadly don't always hear what they say to me. Bit of a shock to realise my hearing aint what it used to be! Technology - yes! Fortunately my husband is good with technology and that's probably why I'm not good, 'cos I ask his help with everything new! Multi-tasking - I'm still good at that, just tend to forget I've left the potatoes on to boil, whilst doing something else! A few burned saucepans!
My mother used to say as we helped her out of the chair, but I only feel 17 inside!

Margaret Garside

Jun 28, 2020 10:17

Hi Tricia

Such a true article! Glad I'm not alone and of course my friends feel the same! I have to wear comfy shoes now as I have inherited my Mothers bunions! Always go for stretchy jeans - bending down to pick up my Grandaughters toys and getting off the sofa a challenge. I also use subtitles on the TV - problem is at the cinema not so easy! How is it my 3 year old Grandaughter although unable to talk yet (due to special needs) can very quickly scroll through her little computer pad with ease and Grandma is still getting used to new technology! It's good to be able to feel we're not alone. I really enjoyed your video an Friday about clothes sizes - very interesting - thank you.

Enjoy the cooler weather! Best wishes Margaret X

Ann

Jun 28, 2020 10:16

Dear Trish,

I feel that you have no need to concern yourself with such worries. Knowing all the good you have done recently by so willingly sharing your thoughts to live life well and inspiring others will keep you young.

As for the ‘grunt’ on rising from a chair, well, that must be addressed, it is the worst giveaway, so definitely hold that sound inside.

Lynda

Jun 28, 2020 10:15

I loved the last sentence of your blog.....’please tell me I’m not alone’! Although said tongue in cheek I think we all like that confirmation and it has been one of the many values of the Super Troopers Facebook.
I recently spent over 3 months unexpectedly living with my daughter as I was caught up in the pandemic situation and stranded a long way from home. Out of my comfort zone of home several things struck me about myself!
1. My feet! Oh for some comfortable shoes (I had arrived with winter boots) and all my expensive and blissfully comfortable shoes were at home in France.
2. Eating late. A busy household and baby bedtime rituals meant eating very late every night....often delicious spicy food in generous portions! It was food that I love but my body prefers small portions early in the evening (or even lunch rather than dinner)
3. Hearing the tv. Oh dear. How can they hear it when the sound is so low!!
My husband (back at home) is hard of hearing so the tv is turned up loud. I hadn’t realised that I also need the volume turned up.
4. Technical problems. Bliss to have young people around to fix and explain things so easily!
5. On the plus side I discovered the sheer pleasure of spending endless time with my baby grandson without all the distractions and and pressures of ‘motherhood’.

Mary

Jun 28, 2020 10:05

I agree with all of the above and I would add one more; I've become more like a man. I can't multi-task like I used too!

Lynne Morrison

Jun 28, 2020 10:04

Once again Tricia you have hit the nail on the head! There are Definitely foods that are a no - no after 6pm but I can live with that but it's the creak and groan when getting up after an evening on the settee which is impossible to stop!I never knew my grandmother but my great granny wore cross over pinnies and granny lace ups, only used soap and water and lived until 95. My mum was a trendy lady who loved colour and in spite of her increasing arthritis and health problems still put on her lippy every day until the last week of her life. We can't stop the ravages of time but we can still fight to retain our spirit by showing a beautiful smile (like yours!) to the world!

Jane Reynolds

Jun 28, 2020 10:02

Loved your honesty Tricia! Most of us can relate to probably most of those things, but here are my top “ageing “ markers.
1) My hands. my fingers are so arthritic , joints very swollen and painful, resulting in disabling mechanics of using my hands......affects everything I do. ( undoing jars, wrists have both had surgery , but are “ knackered” picking up things difficult, doing things up , rings don’t fit( had them altered three times in last year.....expensive!) I could write an essay, just on hands!
2) Pain. Don’t really want to go into it too much, but it affects my neck right arm and left buttock and left leg. Enough said. Mainly nerve pain a residual factor from one of the illnesses I have had.
3) the ‘drop box” moments, I experience , thinking of a word or name or plant name, whatever!
Jumps back in , as quickly as it jumps out. Sometimes I have to fish for the word on Google ( particularly if it is a plant name) I have sort of started using pneumonics , to help me remember things.
I think as far as top ageing annoyances, these are mine!!

Marlene

Jun 28, 2020 09:56

It’s so refreshing to read something that doesn’t dictate or discriminate but, instead, shares an understanding with those of us who DO have some of those ‘signs.’
Comfy shoes? Yes! I’ve been living in my Fitflops for most of lockdown, but I do have several pairs and, when it rains, I don my Jones’ boots as they do a slim fit on their knee highs and I have skinny legs (that’s the only bit that IS skinny). When it comes to hearing, I must admit, I don’t hear as well as I used to but will probably get it checked......one day.
I’ve not yet found myself wishing nice young men were my grandson, rather I find myself wishing I was a few years younger.(Ok, a few decades!)
As for grunting.........I’ll let you know when it happens.....or I might. It!
Thank you, Tricia, for your wonderful and uplifting newsletters, logs and vlogs they give me hope and make me smile!

Jun 28, 2020 09:52

Tricia this really made me laugh. I hadn’t really thought about this before but so try every sign, even getting up from the sofa I know recognise the grunt!!

Karen S.

Jun 28, 2020 09:51

Tricia,
You are not alone! All of your examples are spot on. Let’s add balance. Have you tried to ride a bike lately? The experience is not what it was.
Even swimming is not smooth and fluent.
Just walking shows the effects of age!

Angela.

Jun 28, 2020 09:51

I’m in m y 80s and I agree with all your points. I’ve lost 4inches in height hence as my ribs and hips get closer together, and the waist goes out instead of in! So loose tops and slim bottoms have become my look. As for the feet, least said the better! I think we need LFF shoes and boots.

Eugenia (Jenny) Wisener

Jun 28, 2020 09:48

Hi Tricia. You are definitely not alone. I think we can all identify with you. But one thing for sure is that I have mentally and spiritually trained my brain to believe I am still in my 20s and even though my body may be falling apart, my spirit is indomitable. And that shines through. Age has nothing to do with it. I love your philosophy and I applaud how you are helping so many ladies at a time in life when society "sees" us as invisible. No way!!

Kate

Jun 28, 2020 09:45

I am definitely with you on the rich food, hearing and grunting - and I'm only 60 so you have nothing to worry about!

June

Jun 28, 2020 09:43

How brilliant. You have just confirmed that I too am not alone. Thank you Tricia you have made my day.

Elsie

Jun 28, 2020 09:39

Your article rings so true. I class myself as reasonably fit and not bad for almost 78. Under normal times I do Zumba classes, linedance and have a walk on a Sunday, since lockdown I've been exercising via Youtube, but know what you mean about grunting when rising from the chair. Personally I think its just an habit, we don't need to grunt really, that's my excuse. I put the sub titles on not because think my hearing is going worse, I say it's because of the poor diction that the actors have. The one thing I do accept is when I look in the mirror, my goodness things have changed, thank goodness of for your tutorials. Although you can't do anything for my wrinkles unfortunately. Thanks for your article.

Patricia

Jun 28, 2020 09:39

You are not alone Tricia! I certainly have at least 5 of those 7 and I’m 66. I enjoy your philosophising on our changing faces, bodies and minds, we can all gain confidence from the knowledge and advice of others. I used to be a secretary and took a pride in my knowledge and expertise in new technology and often knew more than younger colleagues, now however, I think it’s getting ahead of me and moving so quickly! We just have to do our best, not give up KBO!

Donna

Jun 28, 2020 09:39

Tricia, I feel exactly as you except I am very fortunate to have according to the audiologist above average hearing for “someone my age”. My son didn’t quite believe me when I had to call for help late one evening when I heard someone trying to break in my door. He thought I wouldn’t be able to hear the sound “all the way from my bedroom”! So I took him with me to get my hearing checked. He found very quickly that his mother COULD hear perfectly well! I’ve had 7 back surgeries, 3 of them lumbar fusions and therefore, exercising is not my cup of tea. I’m for drinking tea at the Ritz, if I were in London, that is. And yes, I groan when getting up from a chair and if I were to ever squat, paramedics would be summoned to the scene! However, I dare anyone to say I’m unfit because I still have plenty to contribute simply because I have been around the proverbial block a few times in my 72 years. It’s my opinion (and it still counts!) that as we age we gain wisdom and I’m proud of that. I have battle scars to prove my accomplishments as well as my failures and I have earned my stars. So yes, I believe you sound pretty normal to me!

Carol M

Jun 28, 2020 09:36

Not a lot, to be honest...
It’s a shame comfortable shoes are associated with being frumpy, and it’s a real challenge to find those which aren’t! Particularly when also looking for flats in warm colours...... I have very few shoes!
Comfort in clothes is another thing which I don’t think has to have anything to do with age - more the confidence to define your own style regardless of fashion. Which may well come with age!
The stiffness thing is my real challenge, though. My hips and now one knee are no longer supple and I have lost a fair amount of my range of movement. I walk a lot, but don’t do any formal exercise, and I think this has to change.
I think my hearing is fine!
Digestion- that’s an interesting one. My dad, who’s 94, is convinced his isn’t what it was. Mine doesn’t take kindly to too much alcohol - hardly surprising.....
Technology? Love it! But I have noticed assumptions from others that I’ll struggle, now you come to mention it.
I don’t have children, so I don’t see young people in that light, but as friends from a different generation. It sometimes surprises me when I’m seen as an alternative mother figure!

Ann

Jun 28, 2020 09:34

Don't worry Tricia! You're not alone, and I could add more to your list, none of which I'm worried about :) from Ann in Sydney.

Lynn

Jun 28, 2020 09:31

You have struck a chord with me, and made me smile. You could be talking about me, and we are definately 'all normal'. Just like you I thought I would never want to wear flat shoes, like my mother used to wear, but nowadays anything too high, and my feet seem to go into spasm, saying please don't put me in those. After all we are the 'stiletto' generation, never in a million years would we have looked at flat shoes in the sixties. We were never going to be like our parents, and we are different these days, but now and again, I will do or say something that my parents would have done. I sat at the side of a pond last weekend with my grandson, I got down ok,' but getting up', I had to roll on to my knees. and still needed a hand from my son. It was funny, we were laughing. I said, look I can walk, why can't I get up. Luckily my hearing is ok, my husband is hard of hearing so he tends to need the TV a bit louder, but he does put his hearing aid in. He says the same 'people mumble'. I worked for 17 years for a hearing aid audiologist, and that is the classic saying of someone 'hard of hearing'. A small 'In-the-Ear' or canal, hearing aid in your good ear can make all the difference. As for technology, children these days are working computers before they can talk, but I think I am doing ok for 72 years old, after all I am blogging with you, and I can even join a zoom meeting..... [thank you Tricia]... really living now. We are not passed it yet, and yes all normal.

Lorraine Temperton

Jun 28, 2020 09:27

Hi Tricia, yes I agree with most of your 7 signs of aging, I did chortle when I read number 3! I also groan every time I get up of the sofa but in my case I think that I can still sit with my legs folded up underneath me as I have done so for most of my life, but I can't. My knees don't like it anymore!
I have fought tooth and nail not to end up like my mum and her mother, my nan but I look in the mirror and see mum's reflection staring back at me, I say the same things to my kids that she said to me. I'm trying to not say them but it's difficult! Lol.
I would like to add another sign and that's where I've become invisible, for instance, walking along the street and younger people are walking towards you, I think to myself they'll move out of the way but do they? No, I end up moving. Or is it that they've been brought up differently? Or is it just that as I've got older I'm getting cantankerous? I noticed it more when I had to forego my blonde colour to give my hair a rest a few years ago. I'm back to blonde now.
I still feel like I'm in my 30's in my head but my creaking body is definitely not.
Lorraine

Vera

Jun 28, 2020 09:27

Don't worry Tricia,I'm sure we all have more or less the same signs, so there's nothing wrong with you!

Lesley Durio

Jun 28, 2020 09:25

I so agree with all of the points and have gone through each of thought processes. At 71 I am now finding driving at night less and less appealing. I must admit even going out in the evening doesn’t have the same appeal it used to although I still do, it sometimes seems a bit of an effort. Having said all this I am more content in who I am than I have ever been, so no longer need to strive to compete or be someone else.

Veronica

Jun 28, 2020 09:25

You are Right-On! I have every one of those signs (plus the soles of my feet hurt and then it’s time to get a pedicure). I used to feel ‘old and ugly’ but now look at the seven signs as a sign of claiming my age and inner beauty. How dare the younger ‘kids’ define and restrict beauty to a particular birthday!
Thank you for your voice.
Veronica

Sheila Taylor

Jun 28, 2020 09:22

You are definitely not alone on all seven counts. I think we are all on an escalator, some of us travelling quicker than others, but if we accept the change of scene as we travel and embrace all the help we can get we shall still be young at heart.
No 4 the hearing is one that I tried to ignore and having easily and discreetly addressed it, no longer do I have the need to ask for repetition, or worse get the wrong end of the stick and give a wrong answer ageing me even more.

Barbara Turner

Jun 28, 2020 09:22

The shoes! I'm still trying to accept this one and have yet to find a pair of nice looking comfortable shoes and I recently have noticed now that summer is here, I can't wear flip flops any longer without stress to my feet.
The TV! I thought it was just me that can't hear movies very well. I blame it on the shows however and certainly not my hearing lol!
Please tell me I'm not alone when I see a nice looking older guy and think hmmm and then realize I'm old enough to be his mother! I guess we all see ourselves as that young 30-40 something woman still.
Thank you for sharing!

Joyce

Jun 28, 2020 09:21

Can I add saying “it’s too hot for me “ when we get a few sunny days . When did that start ? I used to love the heat!

Pauline Preston

Jun 28, 2020 09:16

An interesting blog, I could be your twin in all your observations.

Mary Finley

Jun 28, 2020 09:12

I can empathise with a lot of what you say and I do remember Sophia Loren being asked about being regarded as "old" and she said one of the things you must do is to stop making "old lady noises" when you get up from furniture as it gives away your age. So don't feel bad Sophia Loren does it too!

Irena

Jun 28, 2020 09:11

Oh how I recognise all of those signs...I once asked my husband if he had to make those old man noises when he moved etc - and his reply was - yes do you? I refused to believe I did this but I do and find that I am doing it more often. these are all definitely the 7 signs of ageing - not the beauty skin deep ones!

Alison

Jun 28, 2020 09:09

Definitely not alone in all those things. Like you the grunt has become part of my daily language and despite exercising and doing yoga it is taking me longer and longer to get going in a morning.
I drop my husband off work at police HQ each week and wonder when they started recruiting 12 year olds into the police.
I find myself commenting on people's driving. A trait which drove me mad about my parents and in a similar vein the last few weeks I've been heard to comment "the world's gone mad!" On a regular basis.
We have had a weekly en masse family quiz with all my cousins from Hampshire and the age range has been 22 to 54. We've taken it in turns to set the quiz and each week the bar has been raised it terms of technology so last night I thanked them all for forcing me to go from, in my eyes, zero to hero over lockdown. I've gone from never having done a video call to this week adding sound bites to the PowerPoint presentation quiz questions and successfully sharing both screen and sound. It took 5 hours and a lot of you tube watching to figure out how to do it but it worked and I was awarded the illustrious title of Zoom Queen last night.
If anyone fancies a dabble at it im happy to send it on.
Have a great Sunday and thank you as always. See you tomorrow.
Ax

Lois

Jun 28, 2020 09:09

You are definitely not alone. A recent example that a friend related made us both chuckle: there was an evening a couple of weeks ago when it was a sign of support for Black Lives Matter to take the knee in front of your home at a set time. Firstly, my friend got the day wrong so when she didn't see anyone else out in front, decided that if she took the knee, her neighbours might be concerned that she'd fallen over and couldn't get up and that, yes, it could well be a struggle to get up from that position!

Carole Loughran

Jun 28, 2020 09:07

Yep Tricia they all apply to me. I just think these are a privilege denied to so many so try not to complain too much! X

Christine

Jun 28, 2020 09:02

I must admit your seven visible signs of ageing, made me chuckle, but I can relate wholeheartedly to each and every one. Therefore consider yourself not alone, you have me, and I note at least two other ladies for company.
I’m trying my best to keep abreast of the technology but even my youngest grandson, wizzes through techie stuff quicker than I can blink, (although thinking about it he is 14yrs, and I could master the General Post Office telephone when I was just a bit younger than him :-().) However when you think how much new technology is now part of everyday life, and how quickly it has changed the way we live. When I was younger it was mastering the pressure cooker. Now we can have a kitchen full of gadgets to make life easier, then it takes ages to fathom out the instructions.
I think most of us have managed to adapt reasonably well, considering.....
Thank you for your regular blogs I look forward to them.

Annee

Jun 28, 2020 09:01

Oh how I smiled! So much resonated with me. Another problem that I have is getting up off the floor after playing with my grandchildren or doing my yoga moves. A bit like a bluebottle struggling to turn over!

Jackie

Jun 28, 2020 09:00

Well Trisha, I’m sitting here with tears rolling down my face with laughter because I totally resonate with everything you’ve said. 1. I’ve had to get rid of some favourite shoes and sandals as I can no longer wear them. 2.Although I excercise and do Pilates on Zoom I do feel I am stiffer than I was and also have taken a liking for a comfy waistband. What is so good about Sweaty Betty’s? They’re quite expensive. I also like a bit looser tops these days. 3. Like him or loathe him, Billy Connelly said once how he suddenly realised he made little grunting noises when he got up from a chair. ‘When the ‘bleep’ did I start doing that?’ he said. 4.Loss of hearing has my husband and I in fits of laughter as we both have it. We both come out with such ridiculous things we think each other said. 5. I agree with this too and try not to eat or nibble too late on. 6. I have not invited people to Zoom only joined in with others so don’t know how to do that. You’re ahead of me too on setting up a phone or tv. Technology is second nature to my grandchildren but not to me. 7. I sometimes feel I’m turning into my mother the way I look at things and yes, policemen and doctors seem like boys sometimes. Yet, I’m still me inside. I may be 69 but still feel like that much younger woman who was a teenager and then a mum to 2 young kids. You’re definitely not alone Trisha.

Lorna

Jun 28, 2020 08:59

Oh so true!

It is comforting to read this;as I am not alone and going mad!

Jill

Jun 28, 2020 08:58

My goodness, that rings true on every single level! It’s good to know we’re not the only ones to have gone down the subtitles on TV route - purely in the interests of not causing a public nuisance with the volume level - why do these people have to mumble? I’m told it can makes it more atmospheric, together with making it so dark you can see what’s going on either!! Sorry, grumble over! Love your blogs Tricia.

Fran Burge

Jun 28, 2020 08:54

Signs of aging - yes, what exactly are they? It struck me that your list is a nature/nurture mix - some biological things we are stuck with but also some things around attitude that we can influence. I watched a makeover program recently where some poor soul subjects themselves to initial age assessment by the lovely public. One particular woman in her early sixties was pretty much universally judged to be in her late 70s/80. But actually I don’t think she looked so much old as neglected. Her clothes were rather shapeless and drab. Her skin, hair and teeth looked uncared for. Her posture was awkward and she looked tired and sad (hardly surprising really in the circumstances!). As a society we take these things to be synonymous with age - the wornout doll that nobody, including themselves, loves any more. All negatives. But I know people of all ages who look like this. And I know lots of older, as well as younger, people who look great. I think attractiveness, at any age, is about emphasising the positives we have. There is an art to appearance and when people take an interest and joy in that I do think that is an attractive quality. But when I think about the most attractive people I know, the ones that make me smile when I think about them, then warmth, kindness, confidence, openness, generosity and a happy nature are high up on the list. Age is actually pretty much irrelevant.

Christine Thompson

Jun 28, 2020 08:54

You are not alone. I can absolutely relate to all the ‘signs’ you mention. I look forward to and enjoy your blogs and videos. Keep up the good work.

Alison Stirling

Jun 28, 2020 08:53

I am 85 and agree with everything! I also think; if there was a magic treatment to make me wake up tomorrow physically aged 20 or 25; I would be very lonely and unable to make friends; I would have nothing in common with current 20 - 25 year olds! what does everybody else think? oh; and my children are at me to get a hearing aid but I am quite happy not hearing everything!

Judi

Jun 28, 2020 08:43

Nope... you’re not alone! I mirror your 7 signs of aging!
Judi Allen

Catherine

Jun 28, 2020 08:40

My Mum was very deaf and refused all aids.one weekend my children stayed over and bedded down at usual time.Many weeks later I heard them talking about a dubious film and them.They had watched it through the window of the house across the road with the sound from downstairs and Mum's TV!!
AT 82 I proudly wear NHS hearing aids, free and excellent. Tricia get sorted!!

Jackie Clarke

Jun 28, 2020 08:38

Hello Tricia

I agree with some of your comments, I am a bit older than you, I'm 76, I totally agree about comfy shoes, stretchy waistbands and although I don't grunt getting up from a comfy chair it do if I am lower to the ground. Fortunately I don't have a problem with my hearing,, when tested earlier in the year the audiologist said that it's hardly changed in 7 years. I do eat earlier than you around 6pm and don't have a problem with what I eat, I am mostly in bed around 10pm,but I have always been a morning person. I remember being told as a child in London that when you think policemen and I presume others look young, you are getting old. If that adage is true, I've been old since my 30's.
I have lived in Australia since I was 23, but went to high school in Putney.
I have been using your products for over 2 years and have introduced it to several friends.

Lesley

Jun 28, 2020 08:37

Yes, I also experience all 7 of your ageing signs but it's very comforting to know that I'm not alone. However, as long as we look after ourselves, physically and mentally, to the best of our ability and continue to enjoy life, what the heck! The many advantages of this stage in our life far outweigh these 7 niggles!

Christine

Jun 28, 2020 08:30

Morning, Tricia, I can relate to all 7 points on your list and laughed out loud at number 3. Why do we do that? I can also confirm that there is definitely a lot of mumbling on TV dramas and did actually switch on sub-titles for the first time when watching Normal People recently. I justified this because of the Irish accent. Who am I kidding? But as I, too, live alone no-one else needs to know this! So look forward to your Sunday blogs, Tricia. Keep on sharing, keep on smiling... Christine x

Justina Bailey

Jun 28, 2020 08:28

When I think I’m not doing too badly and then see a picture of me with my daughter!!! She looks very much like me so people say but oh dear when I saw a recent picture of the two of us at my son’s wedding (I had my full face on and a very smart hat) I blamed the photographer and the light!! I looked old! When it comes to shoes I’m SO glad I found out about Calla Shoes and Sole Bliss. I have bunions and even after having both feet operated on in
my fifties I still find it SO difficult to find nice trendy shoes that don’t hurt after wearing them for an hour. At the moment I’m slouching about in my skinny type legging jeans, Nike trainers and various baggy tops (great for hiding a sagging stomach)! I don’t put my full face on when in the house but I would never go without doing my eyebrows, blusher and of course some lipstick. Since the lockdown started my hair has really grown and I think longer hair suits me and I quite like the grey roots so maybe I’ll keep the grey and just have a few lowlights if my hairdresser ever gets back to work!
Justina Bailey

Jen

Jun 28, 2020 08:27

I hate to agree (I’m not getting old obv) but I do so agree!

Anne Gutberlet

Jun 28, 2020 08:22

Ha Ha.....rest assured you are most definitely NOT alone!
You have hit it on the head on every single point.....no point fighting it (too much)!

Dee

Jun 28, 2020 08:21

Great article and can totally relate! So undignified is that unavoidable grunt one automatically makes on getting up from the sofa! Generally, the aging process plays havoc with one’s dignity!

Monica

Jun 28, 2020 08:19

You are not alone ! I can certainly relate to some of your seven signs Tricia. I’m a cup half full person mostly and try to accentuate what I can do rather than what I can’t. Growing old is a privilege which many do not enjoy

Judy Abbott

Jun 28, 2020 08:14

I will never get used to saying "Uni" instead of University; or "yours" rather than' your house'. I will never quite get used to being addressed as "You guys" by my grandchildren (though otherwise, they can do no wrong!)

Wendi

Jun 28, 2020 08:13

Oh I so agree with you. I identified with all of them this morning as i got out of bed and my body groaned. I felt fat even though I recently have lost a few pounds. I looked in the mirror and saw a tired person but I gave myself a good talking too and decide that the signs of aging were not going to get me yet, with a smile and a can do attitude I face the world for another day. Like others I feel you write for me because everything is just the same with me. We are from a generation of strong woman so keep up all your good work. You help us to keep sane.

Margaret

Jun 28, 2020 08:11

I have found swapping eating dinner to lunchtime as helped my digestion a lot. In the evening if I feel hungry I’ll have a slice of toast but have found I can manage on just two meals a day. My gastric reflux I used to suffer with has completely gone away and sleeping is so much better.I agree with you about shoes comfort over fashionable.

Dyan

Jun 28, 2020 08:11

I have not succumbed to no 4 yet Trish but please tell me they have definitely reduced the font size on just about everything - contents of products, prices, sell by dates etc...
No 7 I am sadly it has to be said still looking at some of these young men in a completely different relationship. And yes I am blushing as I write that, but the other signs absolutely.
My goodness it's 9pm time for my bed !!!!

Elizabeth Green

Jun 28, 2020 08:11

Oh, Tricia, I loved your article about the 7 Signs of Aging and can identify with all of them! Thank you for all you do to lift our spirits!

Jane james

Jun 28, 2020 08:09

I agree with you Tricia, I get down on the floor to play with my 4 year old grandson and always say when I get up "oh my knees!' that is one of his standard phrases now! Also try getting up off the floor with a 3 month baby, impossible for me. always look forward to reading all your blogs Tricia

Brenda Dyck

Jun 28, 2020 08:08

I agree with many of your seven and can add a few of my own to your list. 1) Over the past year (even before the pandemic) I have become very comfortable staying home- in fact I totally treasure my quiet time. In the past I would feel like I should be out and about. Knitting and reading has become a favourite pass time- a time to decompress, think and be transported to another place. I like to picture myself as being part of the company of the many young women who knit gorgeous modern knit projects- I’ve joined an online knitting group and I’m constantly challenged by the number of young women who are knitting and designing beautiful patterns. 2) I’ve noticed I’m spending quite a bit of time reflecting on my like. I recall my mother doing that in her 80s and 90s. I’m only 67 but I’ve noticed I’m doing a lot of reflecting. I understand this is not uncommon- it’s how we make sense of our life and think about what we’d still like to accomplish. 3) I’ve noticed I’m less inclined to do things I’ve never really enjoyed. For example, I’ve always hated getting up early in the morning. I spent a lifetime rising earlier than I wanted to. Now I’m embracing my true self (staying in bed as long as I want- usually riding around 9:30 am

Karen Marks

Jun 28, 2020 08:08

You are not alone !! At 74 I’m still working, although furloughed at present, all the above apply especially the digestion bit. The body is still in good shape except where’s my waist gone?

Jeni

Jun 28, 2020 08:07

I totally agree with you in everything you’ve said. My mother lived til she was 90 and you’d never have believed it. Her attitude was amazing. I’ve loved your blogs I try to not act my age if 71 but some things get in the way !!

Marilyn cameron

Jun 28, 2020 07:57

Yes to all those things, plus a few more. When our children were small we lived in Hungary for three years. Little old ladies used to come up to me when the twins were in their pushchair and tell me To put hats and gloves on them. Nowadays I sometimes feel the urge to do the same (or hats on in summer) but I was so cross at the time! I have only become interested in politics in the last few years and shout at the radio. My mother used to remonstrate with me for being indifferent, I think she would be pleased if she heard me now.

Cecelia

Jun 28, 2020 07:55

Tricia this really made me laugh. I recognise every sign of ageing you mentioned although I hadn’t thought about the sigh when getting off the sofa until you mentioned it. It’s difficult but we should be proud to have reached 72 and still be really fit and able, I often think what my mother was like at 70 when she died!!

Honore

Jun 28, 2020 07:55

Spot on once again Tricia! Just beginning to succumb to a stretchy waistband. So tired of being cut in half when trousers fit perfectly except for the waistband! Hearing - yes have succumbed to subtitles, especially American dramas. Unfortunately this drives my other half mad. Don’t mention technology. I actually feel panicked whenever I have to do internet banking. Terrified my money will disappear into the ether. Nothing I touch with technology seems to work as it should for me and I am always asking for help. I think this is the one thing I should really try to get to grips with. None of the instructions are written in plain English and the fact that you can’t get hold of a human being drives me to distraction. I can’t tell you how many times I have been reduced to frustrated tears! So you are not alone out there! Keep up the good work, you are an inspiration to us all in these difficult times.

Hilary

Jun 28, 2020 07:53

You are NOT alone!!

Sue

Jun 28, 2020 07:52

I agree to all your points above and I also find I’m less tolerant of other people’s views and actions,ie
Litter and values.

Gilly Marshall-lee

Jun 28, 2020 07:51

Good morning Tricia
I agree with all 7 of your Visible Signs of Ageing if it makes you feel any better, and I have 7 more!

I once heard Joan Collins say ‘Don’t say Uuughhh when you sink into a comfortable chair - it shows your age darling!’
After that I have always tried not to do that. But if you watch friends, you will find that is exactly what they all say!
Growing old gracefully was what my Granny aspired to do.......Ponds cold cream was her ally.

How things have changed
Keep calm and carry on

Best wishes Gilly

Colette

Jun 28, 2020 07:49

I can’t believe I’m 62 in August, only 3 years younger than my mum as she died of Breast cancer at 65. I’m very lucky to have inherited her good skin but unluckily the cancer which I got at 50 but have survived for nearly 12 years With the grateful thanks of the amazing NHS.

I like to think that I have quite a young outlook on life...most of the time. I have 3 sons who have wonderful partners and 3 lovely granddaughters who all live within 7 miles. Before lockdown we all got together frequently and were all great ‘friends’ which I think keeps me young whilst my 8 year old granddaughter has been my technical adviser since she was 3.

With the lasting effects of chemo and the dreaded arthritis I understand exactly the little noises made when getting up from a seat...Where does that grunting come from and the occasional oooh for no reason! My 84 year old dad lives with my husband and l and we all giggle at the noises and the rocking up that goes on when getting up...1 2 3 is the usual precursor! And don’t get me started on the noises we make as farmers stacking bales of hay out in the fields this time of the year!

I love reading your blogs...it’s real life you talk about. Thank you

Margaret

Jun 28, 2020 07:47

You are not alone. I have to wear a hearing aid, visit the chiropodist regularly and because of an arthritic joint in my big toe on my right foot have difficulty buying shoes that fit comfortably. Shoe fits right foot and is too big for left. Because of arthritis I have limited mobility and as I love gardening and craft work life can be frustrating especially in lockdown. The new saying is “We are all in this together” and how true a saying it is. Take care and hugs from Margaret x

Jane ALLAN

Jun 28, 2020 07:44

How I envy those of you who say you are still the same size as ever. All my life I have fought weight gain: now I have an apple figure and I hate it. My hair, always thin, is thinner and I suffer from tinitus so hearing is a problem. Always worn glasses, always suffered from bad teeth. I am the same age as Tricia; wish I looked as good. As for shoes I am tall and "big boned" so have always worn flat shoes and swear by Think, Austrian firm who make stylish comfortable shoes. So my signs of aging are:
weight gain around and above the waist
tinitus
nasty hair that is thinner than it was
teeth giving up the ghost
a tendency to say "tough if you don't like it" and not to knuckle down and comply if I don't want to
much harder to get to sleep coupled with less sleep
ageing hands despite creaming them
Ah well, that's life, it's not always on your side.

shirley

Jun 28, 2020 07:43

Yes Tricia I know what you mean about visible signs of ageing, I do believe that anyone over 60 has all of them and maybe even more. I have definitely experienced them all. I am now 81 years young and although I have all this going on I still get pleasure out of my life. I have been married to my husband for 55 years and we still enjoy each others company. There is something nice about growing old together. Having said that I still spend time with friends out for lunch and I take pleasure in dressing up and putting on my makeup every day. I have two wonderful sons and four grand daughters and I dearly love my daughter in laws so what's not to like. Life is wonderful and we will get through this Covid 19. So I will leave all my stiffness and soft body issues in the dust bin and keep on going. Love your blog, greetings from Vancouver.
Shirley Davey............

Jan Dickins

Jun 28, 2020 07:43

Although still fighting the older woman tag, I know I am and turned 68this week.
My visible signs of aging are slightly different

1 The comfy shoes I totally agree with you the last time I wore proper heels was 4years ago for my daughter's wedding.
2 The need for reading glasses and their ability to disappear. I have several pairs around the house
3 Stretchy waistband have become the norm during lockdown, but I wear my jeans at least once a week so the weight doesn't creep up.
4The increasing difficulty to shed a few pounds.
5Less energy. The day after a physically busy day feeling tired
6Less strength in my hands and the beginning twinges of possibly arthritis
7 increasingly dry skin particularly my feet and hands
I love your Sunday blogs always strike a chord.

Best wishes
Jan

Carolyn McCartney

Jun 28, 2020 07:42

At a “young 83” I do have all the things you mention. I fight some and others I just gracefully accept. I’m proud of the ways I keep up, technology especially, but do admit that when something goes wrong I find myself taking deep breaths and dreading the phone conversation with a youngster trying to get it set right again. All in all, I am grateful for the blessings of the grunt when I get up from sitting too long, the expanded waistline and all those other nuisances because I know many are not given the days to experience those things. And on the days I’m not grateful, I just say a few choice cuss words and get in with it.

Cynthia May

Jun 28, 2020 07:42

An excellent piece and all very true! One thing though, do go and see about your hearing sooner rather than later. The earlier you get used to wearing a hearing aid the very much more easy and successful it is. By the time you really need one adapting to background noises can be difficult and it puts many people of off wearing them. Your brain needs quite a time to sort out the new influx of sound and with a mild hearing loss it’s a doddle! Thank you for all your blogs.

Gail

Jun 28, 2020 07:41

You are spot on! I "enjoy" all of the seven you have mentioned. I will be 75 years old in another week and I think that sounds old, but here I am; of course my mother is 103 years old!! I guess 75 isn't so old after all, at least in my family. My mind wants to do the same things I did in the past but my body isn't willing. I should be more active but my feet hurt. Comfy shoes and elastic are my friends.
Keep up the great work; there are many of us who need your honestly and optimism, not to mention your wonderful line of skin care and make-up. Thank you, Gail P.

Jane

Jun 28, 2020 07:39

I just finished reading all the comments and feeling so much better for doing so, and then realised when I got up that I make the grunting noise too.......and I had never noticed before. I thought I was fairly agile and supple for 67 but its clearly got to me too!
I'm going to go with it......along with the bunions and dislike of leaving my bed in the mornings.

Claudette

Jun 28, 2020 07:38

I have decided a long time ago, that age is but a number, I feel younger than my age and don’t think about how many years have gone bye, I am thinking what I want to do in the years I may have left.

Karin Staddle

Jun 28, 2020 07:27

I totally agree with all seven signs. So glad you have put them down on paper. It helps to know other people are ageing the same as you. Everything seems to creep up on you slowly but we won't give in to them. Keep fighting it everyone.

Beryl

Jun 28, 2020 07:25

Thank you Tricia for your reassuring honesty. You say out loud what so many of us are quietly thinking
and you make it all a little less awful....We all get old in years but we don't have to get old in thought I wonder if your glorious earrings are the key to your optimism?
Regards from Beryl in Kingston upon Thames.

Janet Atherton

Jun 28, 2020 07:13

You are not alone! Victoria Wood did a brilliant sketch on this topic, look out for it.
Regards
Janet

Diane Seagrove

Jun 28, 2020 07:04

You are not alone Tricia! I can also add a bunion on my right foot to the list, so comfortable shoes are a must! I comfort myself that we are all getting older together.

Mai

Jun 28, 2020 06:35

Margaret Muir

Jun 28, 2020 06:33

Can relate to them all Tricia - especially the shoes and the hearing! I have succumbed to hearing aids which I hate with a passion! Still use subtitles too - hearing aids do help but not the same as good working ears! Also feel people treat you as though you are daft , if you have to keep asking them to repeat things in a noisy environment!
As for the shoes - so annoying as so many outfits are enhanced by a nice pair of heels !
Oh the joys.......! But thoroughly enjoying the Ritz -you are doing a great job!

Jamie Castro

Jun 28, 2020 06:30

Thank you Tricia, for making me laugh and laugh! I am 63 and right there with you on all counts except for one. When I see a good looking young man, I think oh I wish to be young again. I need romance and after 32 years, my marriage has none! Oh and one more to add, does anyone else spend exorbitant amounts of time and money on trying to find lotions for dry, dry skin? I live in the humid tropics and still my skin is incessantly thirsty.Perhaps that is a product your company could create. Keep writing Tricia. It so helps ease the isolation of the resurging Covid!

Jane Smith

Jun 28, 2020 06:25

Simply put - No, you are not alone! I suspect, in my case, at least, there are many more signs of it that I can’t see, and that others surely can. I appreciate their silence!

Raelene

Jun 28, 2020 06:24

You are definitely not alone!

Janet

Jun 28, 2020 06:13

Tricia you are definitely not on your own. I can relate to each and every sign you talked about. Thank you for each and every visit to the Ritz during lockdown I also live by myself and you have brightened up my days.

Leslie

Jun 28, 2020 06:08

YES to all seven! You are not alone! But, I can add one. Watching TV and a commercial comes on for some, ( I can only assume) technology or service for tech, and when it's over, you have absolutely no idea what it was for or what they were talking about!
Thanks Tricia! I'm with my people!

Ann Simmonds

Jun 28, 2020 06:07

Hi Tricia,
I’ve read your visible signs of ageing article and have to say do not worry, you are not alone with your thoughts as they are exactly the same as mine! In my mind I’m still 50 but my body tells me “oh no you’re not”! I too grunt when I get up out of a chair, I too find technology bewildering and rely on my two 17 and 19 year old grandsons to help Granny, they feel so important when they help out and yes my hearing leaves a lot to be desired and pure vanity has stopped me seeking help!
I lost my lovely husband in October 2018 a third marriage, and the one that mattered the most, a soul mate in every sense of the word. This year would have been 16 years of marriage.
However after in 2019 I arranged my daughter’s wedding in Cyprus, went on holiday with a girl friend to Jersey, something I never thought I would do, put my bungalow on the market and moved two weeks before Christmas 2019, what a year!
This year,well apart from not being able to unpack a lot of boxes still in my garage, they are too heavy to lift, I have managed to decorate, dug an overgrown border in the garden, planted new plants and generally kept bust during lockdown but after 11 weeks thought I was climbing the walls not going out other than walking the dog. I realised I hadn’t worn makeup and I’m a makeup junkie, but who noticed, only me. One day I gave myself a big talking to, I’ve always said,I will “go down fighting age” I will put on my makeup on and do my hair as best I can without an appointment since the end of January with my hairdresser.
Since that talking to I put my makeup on try and do something with my hair and have finally gone to the supermarket to do my shopping wearing mask and gloves instead of relying on others to bring the groceries.
I do rely on others for heavy lifting etc etc, and I do see things on tv which shock me, I hate scenes of people leaving mountains of rubbish, and I hate the selfish attitude of people who just don’t care about the environment and the mess they leave behind them.
But one thing is for sure, we are getting older, the world is a very different place from the 60s when things were great and we hadn’t a care in the world, but I count myself lucky that I have my health and the determination to put on my makeup regardless of who I see because it makes me feel good.
Love to read your articles they make me smile keep them coming. I hope I haven't rambled on too much but thank you for reading it.
Ann Simmonds

Jun 28, 2020 05:53

So much to agree with! Thanks so much for sharing your experiences.

in my case the hearing loss is a cautionary tale. One day I left the house with normal hearing in both ears but by lunchtime one ear was very muffled and hissy - as it has stayed. My consultant tells me sudden hearing loss is a real thing and should be treated as a medical emergency - go to A&E and rapid treatment may help! I went initially to a pharmacy and then GP and by the time the right diagnosis was made it was too late, so I am keen to make sure anyone else doesn’t delay.

Maria

Jun 28, 2020 05:51

Tricia, I had to smile as I read your Seven Signs and could relate to all of them. I find the stiffness on rising from the couch to be very bothersome, but I am happy that I once I am upright I feel and walk just fine. Yes, eating at night, especially fatty foods, is a very bad habit. It is just inviting an attack of gastric reflux. I could go on, but I think you get the message. You are not alone!

Bobbie ( Roberta) Smith

Jun 28, 2020 05:33

Love reading your comments on aging. You really are as young as you feel! Your comments are so true and I always enjoy your take on the “younguns”.

Maggie Stearn

Jun 28, 2020 05:05

Amused by this, because I recall the late Victoria Wood saying 'How do you know you are ageing? You pass a Dr Scholl shoe shop and think "Oh, they look comfy". '
I like Hotter shoes (in recent years some good styles), and sorry to read that they are in financial trouble. Everyone - buy some! One reason being they are a British shoe manufacturer.

Joan Stillgoe

Jun 28, 2020 05:03

Hi. I just loved reading your blog about getting old. I agree with you in every way. Although I am much older than you I do believe. I am 85, but all through Lockdown I too have looked after myself and made myself look respectable each morning,and put on some make-up and did my hair, in case anyone came to the door, 2 metres away even, I found with nobody coming I had more time to , even though I always tried before to "put a face on"..I have only had 3 visits, outside in the garden, from 3 members of my family, I have had a couple of visits come to the front door to see if all was well.. and also delivery men . But I have managed well, although looking forward to getting back to normal. Thank you very much,

Joan Addison

Jun 28, 2020 04:56

Hi Tricia,
Just read your 7 signs of ageing and I am much the same as you , comfy shoes, elastic waistbands preferable , my hearing is good but my sight is not great etc. However, thanks to your wonderful ‘ Tea at the Ritz’ has been the most positive in my life during this dreary lockdown ... it gave me something to think about...I had not bothered much with makeup and earrings but with your daily advice I now do my eyebrows, makeup and take more care of myself in general ... I really enjoyed your poetry readings too ... you are an inspiration ... thank you so much

Cheryl Boone

Jun 28, 2020 04:54

I really enjoyed your seven things you've noticed about yourself. You are definitely not alone! I am 78 this year, and I am all of those things also.

Diane Clarkson

Jun 28, 2020 04:35

I still can’t believe I am 76, I look at other pictures of 76 year olds and think I look years younger than them, I still feel in my Fifties. But actions tell me otherwise, I have started to practise getting up without help in case I fall.........again!
As to food, I am lactose intolerant, so all dairy must be avoided at all cost, also like to eat my main meal at 5.30 pm, so we can walk our dog early evening and not have to eat later than 7.30pm.
Oh well, maybe I am getting old , but won’t admit it yet!

Best regards

Diane Clarkson

Stephanie Golden

Jun 28, 2020 04:31

Loved your talk on the 7 visible signs of aging,- found it very reassuring! I especially agree about a stretchy waistband. Why aren’t more dresses styled with the princess line rather than “a relaxed fit” I wonder?
And I laughed in sympathy about grunting on exertion. My mother was still ticking herself off at 98 for sounding old!

Jacqueline Trotman

Jun 28, 2020 04:25

Hello, I can totally relate to all of the above, and so glad I am not alone in these thoughts.! They do say that when policemen start looking younger to you, it is a sign of ageing! ( have seen some very young ones lately!). I did laugh at your confession of wearing the SB leggings whilst doing your video. Thank you for keeping our spirits up, keep safe and well . xxx

Yvonne

Jun 28, 2020 04:18

It made me smile reading your list of 7 and it's good to notice changes and adapt what you need to. It's easy to keep doing the same old, even if it's no longer works. But worth getting your hearing checked just as you would your eyesight, your wouldn't be prepared not to be able to read a book because of failing eyesight.

Judith

Jun 28, 2020 04:11

I’m 68 and decided long ago that comfort was more important than fashion. During our cold Canadian winters when going out I am bundled with hat and scarf, something I wouldn’t have done 10 years ago. We have a lovely line of dress leggings here and that is all I wear with longer, tunic length tops. There are a few ankle length flowing skirts in the closet for special occasions along with flat shoes.
The morning stiffness can be tough but is gone after my early morning walk with hubby. I do take an herbal supplement for arthritis and it performs well for me.
I love our discussions on ageing, comparing notes and picking up tips from others.

Paulette Hughes

Jun 28, 2020 04:03

I am here in Canada, reading all of your posts and having tea at the Ritz with you Tricia. I never comment but appreciate all you've done during this pandemic as well as your great makeup that I use. I am also a December 1947 baby, so the same age as you.
Today I have to comment - this post is bang on. I feel exactly the way you do about these "signs of aging". The wrinkles, sagging body bits, and facial changes are part of our badge of honour for having lived this long. The attitudes and habits we gather as we age are what we can change or adjust if need be. And with greater success than trying to reverse any other "visible signs of aging" as identified by most in the beauty industry.
Keep up the good , no, the great work! You are appreciated by many more than you know.

Barbara6

Jun 28, 2020 03:58

Yes but Tricia you & I are both Capricorns. Resilient, reliable, pragmatic. I was born 8th January 1944 same day as Shirley Bassy, Elvis Presley, David Bowey even Kate, Duchess of Cambridge her birthday is January 9th, & you have Frank Sinatra's birthday around your's. However, we may have the odd ache & pain here & there as Frankie's song says we 'pick yourself up and start all over again'. I'm a believer in our birth signs & that's how I think us Capricorns live our life.

Janet Stott

Jun 28, 2020 03:57

Tricia I love your blogs and you have encouraged me so much to believe that age is just a number and at our age - I’m same age as you - we are NOT old and light years away from our grandmothers and mothers at the same age! Thank you! And I’ve learnt how to do eye make up!! Brilliant. I agree with six of your seven signs of aging. I’ve been in comfy shoes for a decade. But the tech revolution I absolutely have embraced with open arms. I hope you are still doing enough exercise to get into the sports car! One of the reasons I go to the gym as I have a very low sports job. Thank you for your fabulous blogs and tips. Janey

Faith

Jun 28, 2020 03:56

With all the comments you have about the aging subject seems we are all in the same or similar state LOL. 1/ I am into comfy shoes and I HATE it. 2/ Stretchy waistband I have lost nearly a stone in lockdown, probably due a lot to muscle wastage, I know I should walk, but it's got that it's an effort! not because I can't, I have become just too lazy. 3/ The grunting noise I have had for years, don't even notice it anymore LOL. 4/ I've had a hearing aid since I was 42 after sudden loss in my right year. 5/ As for subtitles, I think if drama actors spoke as they used to in old films, we wouldn't need subtitles, as we certainly do now, just shows, as we can hear the news! 6/ Certain foods have to be avoided due to my diabetes and as long as I take my tablets no other stomach problems LOL.
7/ Technology is OK with me, I remember my brother introducing me to a computer when we started a business in the early 90's, if I didn't "park" my computer then I slightly moved it, it crashed! I had to make a spreadsheet by using "DOS" code, ah! those were the days. I asked him after a while what he thought of this new "Windows" system coming out, he said "It will never catch on!" As for a grandson, I will never have one! extended family will have to do and I am so proud of what they have achieved.

Kate

Jun 28, 2020 03:49

A lot of it(most of it) sounds very familiar.
I watched Alan Bennet's talking heads on catch-up last night. Brilliantly performed but very thought provoking. I still have my husband but for those living alone life seems really difficult.
Well done you for keeping up your standards. I sometimes have a dressing gown day, like today. Relaxing, reading all of the papers, potter in the garden and then have a late shower and dress. I love these occasional days but feel guilty that someone might turn up and judge me. Recently it almost happened. I had been up early and gardened for an hour, we had breakfast and an old friend phoned and talked for an hour. She asked for an email address for a local home delivery. I looked at my computer to give it to her. I spotted an email from another friend who's cancer surgery was postponed due to Covid19. She is a very dignified and private person and she had reached out in her email for reassurance and comfort. I spent the next hour very carefully wording my response. Just finished and the phone went. A friend who lives alone asked if I was up and dressed. She was at a garden centre five minutes away. I said I was up but not dressed. I asked if she could potter around the garden centre for half an hour or 40 minutes and then I would be ready for her arrival. She refused and said she wanted to get her plants home. I said o.k. and she said she would ring another time and drive straight to our house. I said o.k. fine. This was three or four weeks ago. She has not been in contact since and has ignored an email. So, unwittingly I have upset a friend. She obviously is not aware of the busy morning I'd had prior to her call . Nor is it any of her business. But I feel bad for not being able to immediately say come round . The lesson from my tardiness? Get up and shower immediately. That said, I suddenly felt that I was under pressure to meet other people's expectations after having such a lovely time at home gardening and spending time with my husband. After watching the Alan Bennet thing though, perhaps I should always be ready to have visits from my single or widowed friends? I certainly would not want to be in their shoes and I really do appreciate the fact that I'm not. Today, Sunday with wind and rain , I have had my first dressing gown day since that occasion as I knew we could not entertain in the garden.

joan

Jun 28, 2020 03:45

you are not alone....I am aging at the same rate here in CA, USA

and thank you for making me feel less crazy!

but you didn t mention the pause when ask your own telephone number?

Beryl Cole

Jun 28, 2020 03:43

Hi Tricia,
Thank you for the blog, and NO you are most definitely not alone with comfortable shoes and clothing, eating too late. I often think that people getting into the drivers seat of their vehicles look far too young to drive, and I do try hard not to be the old fogey.
However I do have something to say to you about hearing. I too had to use subtitles on the TV and struggled in certain situations, and with certain people to hear everything they said at meetings. This didn’t happen in my 70s but in my 50s... I went to see a young audiologist who was offering free testing when setting up her new business in my local town. I was shocked when she told me that I had quite a significant hearing loss and should have been wearing hearing aids for a number of years. Apparently most people leave it about 15 years too late. This is because the hearing receptors need to be stimulated Sooner rather than later in order to get the very best from your hearing. Once it is gone, it is gone and can’t be recovered. Also she told me that wearing aids takes a lot of getting used to with 80% spending most of their time in the drawer rather than in their owners ears. This is because all sounds are heard clearly even the ones you have learned to disregard. Tiny babies are easily startled because their hearing is acute and they haven’t learned to cut out unnecessary background noise. When you get aids, you need lots of time to go through this process all over again.
I have been wearing my invisible tiny hearing aids for nearly 20 years now, Upgraded of course, and the modern technology is truly astonishing. Most people are surprised when I tell them that I have really poor hearing, and say that they would never have known. I bless the day I walked into Sadie’s office, and she saved me from being increasingly socially isolated. I spend quite a lot on my hearing, but I don’t regret a single penny of it.
SO even though it doesn’t bother you now, subtitles, others making remarks and being driven up the wall are initial alarm bells, so get a hearing test as soon as it is safe to do so. You wouldn’t hesitate to get your eyes tested would you ?
Beryl x

evelyn

Jun 28, 2020 03:37

6 out of 7 for me Tricia because I dont have children or grandchildren so still gawp at a nice young with very different thoughts to yours !

Evelyn Xxx

p.s. "creamy/oily" "food" late at night - wouldnt be a naughty Magnum ice lolly would it ??? If not that would bring me up to 7 out of 7 for me.

Jane

Jun 28, 2020 03:26

Tricia,how well you sum it all up! Thanks to lockdown,all my higher heels have been packed of to find younger in -steps and hair,make up etc are essential to boost morale!
Thanks for all your blogs- have enjoyed the make - up tips too.

Angela

Jun 28, 2020 03:13

Hi Tricia,

Your comments are very interesting. However we are all very different which makes life so wonderful.

I’ll respond to your points below but to give you a better idea of my comments I will tell you I am 82 years old, and in excellent health.

1, I agree about comfy shoes but as you say, there are so many nice ones. In fact a lot of the younger ones wear exactly the same in their leisure time.

2. I don’t like stretchy waistbands, I do think that if they show they look a bit grumpy.
I just wear summer type, loose fitting trousers around the house and still do exercises, housework etc. In them.

3. I don’t make grunting noises when getting up from a chair although I know a lot of people do. I should think that every time you rise from a chair if you say to yourself “don’t grunt” then you can get into the habit of not doing so.

4. I have been wearing a hearing aid about 3 years without any problems. My hair just covers my ears so the only people who know are the ones I tell, (very few). Very benefIcial when out shopping etc and some people speak very quietly .

5. I agree with that, mainly bananas or cheese for me. I would not have a caffeinated drink after 6pm as it would keep me awake .

7. I do think some young men and women are lovely but as I have two lovely grandsons of 19 and 21
I really have eyes for no others.

All in all I think we all have different needs depending on what life has thrown at us.

Best wishes. Angela

Eileen Allen

Jun 28, 2020 03:09

Dear Tricia

You are absolutely not alone! All the things you mention are exactly the same for me. I relate entirely with all you have said, in particular the mumbling actors on the TV, and in particular when watching something from the U.S.A. on Netflix or Amazon, I have to have the subtitles on - very annoying. Just a few minutes ago I was discussing with my sister-in-law the difficulty of finding glamorous shoes - oh how I long to wear lovely stilettos again, I have recommended both Cala and Sole Bliss to her, as well of course LFF, although you wont find her on Facebook - that is one sign of ageing she will not overcome, her horror of social media and the damage it does. You might find Victoria Wood's 7 signs of ageing amusing - have a look at it on Utube, its very very funny.

Incidentally, I think you and I are the same age, all but a week, you Christmas Day, me New Years Eve 1947. See you on Monday - hopefully I will be one of those who have got an Eventbrite Zoom ticket.

Eileen

Lynda Brooks

Jun 28, 2020 02:57

I know what you mean!! The one thing I always try to make sure I do not do is, the groan when getting off a sofa. I have always thought this is VERY ageing and I mention it to friends that this audible sound adds years! I have to really stop myself as I have Rheumatoid Arthritis and the groan comes easily. The other thing is certain foods do play havoc now, a shock to me as I have always considered myself to have a "cast-iron" digestive system. I also cannot now drink my favourite wine - Sauvignon Blanc, far too acidic for me now. I try not to think what my mother always used to say "there is no fun in growing old". Even more ageing and utterly depressing. Let's keep chipper ladies!

Anne

Jun 28, 2020 02:53

Hi Tricia,
You are definitely not alone.
Tecnology, well thank goodness for teenage grandchildren I just haven’t got the patience.
Hearing, yes everyone on TV either speaks too quickly or mumbles, well that’s my excuse.
Yes I rember thinking *ill never be like you * Err. Sometimes have to keep very quiet.
Eating rich foods late, definitely Not.
In fact all in all you were absolutely spot on.

Looking very glam as always.xx

Margot

Jun 28, 2020 02:53

I don't think you are alone at all. I recognise (took me a minute to think of the word I wanted to use just then!) all but one of your seven signs because I think my hearing is OK. However my memory is a bit random so I still have at least 7 signs! I am much wiser now though and often say if I knew then what I know now. For example in the late sixties when I was say 14/15 I shunned mini skirts because I didn't have legs like Jean Shrimpton or Twiggy, now I look at my legs and think perhaps they weren't so bad after all and I should have embraced the fashion at the time.

Nancy

Jun 28, 2020 02:49

Of course you are “normal” but isn’t it amazing that our minds stay so much younger than our bodies? Wish someone would have told me to expect that years ago! I have added stretches and balance exercises to most ever morning routine just to be able to more more easily. And am always looking for ways (including makeup and fashions) that keep my head satisfied that my body doesn’t “age” any faster than It has to. All the ladies on super troopers give me such great examples of just how to do that!

Carol

Jun 28, 2020 02:48

Hello Tricia

You did make me laugh and your comments are all so true! Despite two online Zoom yoga classes plus one on U-tube and a walk everyday, my weight stubbornly refuses to move downwards! I ruined my feet in my younger days buying fashion shoes which didn’t fit my then narrow feet so having to scrunch up my toes. Now referred to hammer toes! I know better now of corse and wear Ecco shoes which are so comfortable. Stretch waistbands are fantastic.
I too think policemen/women look very young.
Really enjoy your weekly blog - thank you.

Lynda

Jun 28, 2020 02:39

Give yourself another 10 years Sally

Monica

Jun 28, 2020 02:32

You are not alone, I have some of the same things happening, and am definitely turning into my dad with his grumbles. Being deaf since childhood I don't have the gradual onset of deafness, and pilates keeps me relatively supple, but the gradual loss of muscle mass is a problem, so that I am now rather scrawny with floppy upper arms.
I do wonder what are the seven signs of ageing on one's face, mine hardly has room for that many, and just a few are quite enough.
One of the best signs of Ageing though is the ability to see ourselves more clearly and to laugh, at ourselves when necessary, and at the judgemental attitude of modern society and fashion in general. We have much to be thankful for and I am very glad that I am this age at this time, as I am definitely not turning into my dear grannies.

Sally Acott

Jun 28, 2020 02:16

I so understand Tricia! Like you I am determined to fight ageing and despite severe arthritis,still exercise and walk etc. However, I am aware that our children view us as being “old”. Often the patronising remark, innocently and often kindly made, betrays the thinking! We have 4 children between us and meet regularly for a Zoom quiz. These have become more sophisticated over time and the use of PowerPoint has become routine. This week we had to do our question round based on “Have I Got News For You”. Determined not to fall into the trap of older people. I prepared a great PPt and included several current cultural references. Imagine my horror when just as I put the PPt up, we lost our internet connection !

Pat Turner

Jun 28, 2020 02:15

Oh Tricia as always you hit the nail right on the head! I always look forward to your Sunday blog it starts my morning with a smile.

Sally

Jun 28, 2020 02:07

At 60 Tricia some of these have already started to creep in!
Not to mention the elephant in the room...........menopause.
Which, still gets brushed under the carpet, and laughed about like PMT.
It’s debilitating and certainly life changing.
Your blogs and video tips certainly help to make one feel a bit better on glum days.

Jackie

Jun 28, 2020 02:02

Well Tricia I'm somebody who shares your signs of ageing for one! The only two I would have to disagree with are my hearing is still very good although my eyesight is definately not what it was and I find myself wearing my glasses more and more (and losing them round the house more often!). The other one is digestion. Fortunately, because we mostly have our main meal between 5.30 and 6pm I avoid the problem you experience occasionally. As for technology! I'm ok when everything is working as it should but if there's a problem I have to seek out my son in law for help. Quite honestly, if he wasn't nearby I dont think I would be able to handle it all! I'm no good with buttons my husband says! The other thing I notice now is that I'm not very good at rushing. My family can all get ready so much quicker if we're going out and so I have to make sure I get to the bathroom first etc.,so I don't hold them up! I've definately slowed up these days but maybe that's not such a bad thing? Everything else you mention I share I'm afraid

Sarrin

Jun 28, 2020 02:02

You definitely are not alone! I keep saying this ‘old thing is hard work’ and Mother Nature has a miserable sense of humor! But we’re all going in the same direction so we may as well put on our ‘war paint’(thank you Tricia for this) and enjoy the trip! Growing older is a privilege, not everyone gets to do it!

Ann Woolacott

Jun 27, 2020 11:54

Oh how I agree, you are not alone, these are on my list of ageing. Especially the digestion, I used to wonder why my Mother-in-Law had so many indigestion remedies, now I know.
I love your blog I feel that quite often you are inside my head, keep up the good work. Your book is my go to. Thank you.

Carolyn Williams

Jun 26, 2020 08:01

Re body changes as we age: a friend of mine had a great phrase for these changes:
“Redistribution of assets“. I think that fits it well,as my weight has hardly changed and I still wear “pretty much “ the same size ,but boy has the shape changed!! Lots of interesting stuff for us older ladies, Thankyou!

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